For a start, you have either not read the post or missed the point entirely. I don’t doubt that it takes effort to do your job but this is not a careers website – it’s a relationship one. What I’m basically saying is:

Good, great, amazing at job – treats you like sh*t – doesn’t take away from the fact that he’s great at his job but it adds nothing to his behaviour in the relationship with you.

For YOU it gives spiritual drive and that’s wonderful but there are, for example, extremely professionally successful men…that cheat or abuse. This isn’t a post about judging someones efforts and skills at work. This is about going with one notion, isolating it as a reason to stay invested, and then not looking at other overriding characteristics and red flags that are far more important to the relationship.

I’m failing to see the ‘spiritual drive’ there and I’m *still* failing to see your point.

Finally Over It – Amen! I’m glad you see it in the way it was intended!
Brad K – Wow! Great comment. Your PK part really highlights what being dogmatically focused on one thing to the detriment of others can do to your relationships. And ‘sufficient’ is the key word – many women can use any of these reasons as an overriding factor.
Cheekie – That used to happen to me all the time! I’d end up second guessing myself and ignoring my instincts! Many a guy lasted longer than he should of because i listened to people who projected their idea of things or their insecurity. They imagine what it would be like to walk away from someone and it scares the crap out of them so they scare the crap out of you!

As for #5, the religious thing. What this often means is that some religious people substitute religious teachings for living a consciously moral life. They use the list of do’s and don’ts, and sometimes overlook the needs of others, compassion, mercy, and true communication. It can be simpler to spout dogma (teachings) than work to understand a mate or child. There is a recognized social niche of troubled teens, called PK’s. Preacher’s kids. Some pastors and other religious folk focus so much on teachings and assuming they are morally right and will damage their faith by thinking of anything else – that their families can suffer from lack of a compassionate, family-oriented male adult to over-rule this religiously correct tyrant. Sometimes.

Usually people that are active in their congregations are disciplined, and understand good behavior. And, of course, that they understand that congregation’s teachings.

And that goes for all five (5) of the characteristics on the list. Each might mean very good things – respected and respectful, honest, disciplined. None says anything about emotional ties other than courtesy. And certainly, none of the reasons listed imply that the guy is at a place in his life that he would consider taking on the obligations and responsibilities of a relationship.

Even if he is flirting. Maytbe especially if he/she is flirting. Flirting expresses desire for a sex fling – not a relationship. You woo an “Other Woman” or a plaything by flirting. You win a mate with communication, with respect, and magic – not sex.