it’s both accurate and true.

a list of cliche things women put in their profiles

1. The Interests

Everybody likes music, and art, and traveling, and the outdoors, and sunshine, and having fun. These are not things that give any insight as to who you are as an individual. I wouldn’t even really describe them as interests but more just standard features that come with any human being. It’d be like shopping for a used car and coming across an ad that says “Great vehicle, runs on gasoline, tires are round, has matter and density.” I still don’t know the make, model, year, milage, accident history, horse power etc. If anything I view the vaugness as a trap into buying a lemon.

2. I’m shy but I’m not shy

A lot of girls can’t decide on what they are. “I’m shy but I can also be very outgoing.” “I’m just a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl that loves to get dressed up and go out too.” “I’m a realist but I have a bit of a hopeless romantic side. . .” When filling out your “about me” section you should use a “Which of the following best describes me?” approach. Like an SAT question, choose the letter that best answers the problem, don’t fill in every bubble.

to see the rest copy and paste this link to my blog

http://www.ourthursday.com/2010/06/25/10-things-i-hate-about-online-dating/

I will say that I tried the online dating thing once. I was completely honest in my profile!

The profile of the one guy who caught my eye was intriguing so naturally I became interested in getting to know this guy better. I wanted to meet him in person first (in public of course) because I feel more comfortable that way.

Some of the things on his profile weren’t entirely true. I could see where there could be grey areas but even if there were red flags flying in my face, I chose to ignore them. Anyway, we ended up dating for a couple months as boyfriend/girlfriend. I even did a clarification question to make sure we weren’t dating anyone else. We both said “No”. I know I wasn’t lying and trusted he wasn’t either.

Crash and burn.

Long story short, he did the slow fade then did the disappearing act.

Tried to contact him at least one more time to no avail a few days later after disappearing. Looked online to find out he had changed the “Looking for” from “Long-term” to “dating” on his profile (the fact he still had his profile up should have been a major red flag if not a sh*tstorm of red flags lol).

I believe not responding was an answer. lol.

In all honesty, I wasn’t expecting an engagement ring anytime soon, if at all. I was just casually getting to know the person. There was something going on in his life at the time but I remained a listener even though I had suggested a solution before he shot it down. That’s when I decided I’m just going to listen and let him figure this one out on his own even if I have 98237490283740298374 suggestions. lol.

Another long story short, perhaps we could/would/should have communicated better but we didn’t and I take responsibility for my half. Even at that, we probably weren’t right for each other and it was probably all an illusion.

I’ve tried multiple different sites and have yet to have date one from any of them. I’m not sure if it is because I don’t make things up to make myself seem better than I am but it’s really frustrating. That’s probably why people make everything up because if you don’t, you get ignored.

I guess honesty doesn’t work on these sites. I’m swearing off them!

Well, on the “Free” version, when you get a “wink,” there are “26 permutations” of how to reply “yes I’m interested.” However, you can’t reply “No thanks” unless you PAY. The site’s guidelines allude that on the “Free” version you can do a “free webmail reply” to a webmail sent to you, but when I tried, I kept getting directed to “upgrade.” Also, the website’s guidelines “suggest” that you “try NOT to reveal your email address” until you have corresponded via the web site. Well, on the “free” version, the ONLY way you can say “no thanks” is to reveal your email address. Fortunately, this site allows you to shut down and close out your account. Which I will be doing soon!

Meeting sooner rather than later is a must. Building up rappore on the phone or via email doesn’t necessarily mean there is chemistry when you meet. It’s so disappointing what is great on paper doesn’t even come close.

The dates I’ve been on have all gone well and was pleasant enough but it was just a formality. I trust my instinct and if there’s no chemistry it’s the first and last date.

Ignore the weirdos or the one’s who send irate emails because you didn’t reply back immediately.

Always read the age limit on their profile. A 40 y.o. man with a range between 18-60 isn’t a quality I’m looking for. Apart from the obvious, what can a 40 y.o. man have in common with an 18 y.o woman?

Men who you haven’t even met claiming undying love or who is far too serious than they should.

Women tend to lie about their weight. Men lie about their height!

Things will happen when they happen whether meeting naturally or on the internet.