Comments on: 10 Truths You Need to Accept About Breaking Up: Part 2 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/ Getting you savvy, smart, sussed and sexy about dating and relationships. Wed, 07 Jan 2009 20:38:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: RES http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-191273 RES Wed, 24 Sep 2008 01:01:55 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-191273 Amen, Amen, AMEN!!!!!! NML, you've saved me a ton of $$$$ on therapy. I'm not exactly sure how someone so young (I'm 42), became so damn wise. Amen, Amen, AMEN!!!!!! NML, you’ve saved me a ton of $$$$ on therapy. I’m not exactly sure how someone so young (I’m 42), became so damn wise.

]]> By: tulipa http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189826 tulipa Wed, 17 Sep 2008 07:21:38 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189826 I'm so guilty of number seven .... and 9 and10 .... It really does look ridiculous engaging in number 7 type behaviour shame it doesn't seem that way when you are doing it. and im guilty of communicating in all the lazy ways at least when he can be bothered he does pick up the phone and talk direct.... well im about to find out some more home truths soon... I’m so guilty of number seven …. and 9 and10 …. It really does look ridiculous engaging in number 7 type behaviour shame it doesn’t seem that way when you are doing it. and im guilty of communicating in all the lazy ways at least when he can be bothered he does pick up the phone and talk direct…. well im about to find out some more home truths soon…

]]> By: shootingstar67 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189773 shootingstar67 Wed, 17 Sep 2008 02:14:20 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189773 I am so glad my urum agrress with no contact and probably wont contact me. I am too weak to ignore him Whne I talk to him I get a lot of sweet talk. He said about the only thing he regrets about our relationship is not being with someone 'more open" so he can keep seeing me. Ugh I am not even concitered GF material am I? Alas if only he could find himself a girlfriend that was more open? man! Well what about me, who dated him while he was dating five others? Couldn't I be that GF? Apparently not '' I can't imagine what the others here go though when their EUM contact them and send letters. At least I have the chance to accept his indifference and lack of interest on his part. But if the guy still runs hot after awhie, there is no chance.Not for me Not inless I change my number, block all phone calls lose half My friends, or even move At least there is no chance for me, as some appear to be doing it. I am so glad my urum agrress with no contact and probably wont contact me. I am too weak to ignore him

Whne I talk to him I get a lot of sweet talk. He said about the only thing he regrets about our relationship is not being with someone ‘more open” so he can keep seeing me.

Ugh I am not even concitered GF material am I? Alas if only he could find himself a girlfriend that was more open? man! Well what about me, who dated him while he was dating five others? Couldn’t I be that GF? Apparently not
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I can’t imagine what the others here go though when their EUM contact them and send letters. At least I have the chance to accept his indifference and lack of interest on his part.

But if the guy still runs hot after awhie, there is no chance.Not for me
Not inless I change my number, block all phone calls lose half My friends, or even move

At least there is no chance for me, as some appear to be doing it.

]]> By: JC http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189756 JC Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:45:14 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189756 This post is right on time. After almost a year of ambiguity, I've decided to break up with my EUM for various reasons. He knows why I want him to drop by tomorrow and he's stalling! This tactic from a guy who won't even be my boyfriend. I'm big on asking questions, but what's the point, I won't get the answers I want and he's not going to declare his undying love. I also was planning to try to be friends, but I know now that's a big mistake and it'd just be a way for me to hold on to him. What a relief to have a "break up manual" posted this week! This post is right on time. After almost a year of ambiguity, I’ve decided to break up with my EUM for various reasons. He knows why I want him to drop by tomorrow and he’s stalling! This tactic from a guy who won’t even be my boyfriend. I’m big on asking questions, but what’s the point, I won’t get the answers I want and he’s not going to declare his undying love. I also was planning to try to be friends, but I know now that’s a big mistake and it’d just be a way for me to hold on to him. What a relief to have a “break up manual” posted this week!

]]> By: Sarah http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189747 Sarah Tue, 16 Sep 2008 23:36:00 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189747 kira, It's so much easier when they never speak to you again because then you are forced to move on. Heed the advice of every woman who posts here. Learn from our mistakes and your own. Why continue to torture yourself. Make today the day you decide you've had enough and want things to change. It's not easy (boy, is that an understatement!) and you may fail at first, but stick to your guns. Resolve to not let this control your life anymore. We have faith that you will succeed. kira,

It’s so much easier when they never speak to you again because then you are forced to move on. Heed the advice of every woman who posts here. Learn from our mistakes and your own. Why continue to torture yourself. Make today the day you decide you’ve had enough and want things to change. It’s not easy (boy, is that an understatement!) and you may fail at first, but stick to your guns. Resolve to not let this control your life anymore.

We have faith that you will succeed.

]]> By: kira http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189739 kira Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:45:25 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189739 You are spot on with every point. My issue? I didn't follow a single one of them and here I sit almost a year later still dealing with it. Every time I thought I was doing ok, he'd pop up again in one way or another. Now, I still love him just as much as I did a year ago because I couldn't let go and follow the points that seem so effortless on paper. You are spot on with every point. My issue? I didn’t follow a single one of them and here I sit almost a year later still dealing with it. Every time I thought I was doing ok, he’d pop up again in one way or another. Now, I still love him just as much as I did a year ago because I couldn’t let go and follow the points that seem so effortless on paper.

]]> By: Cynnie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189682 Cynnie Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:18:35 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189682 I've "broken up" with my parter going on two months now, and from reading NML's post I realise that I still have a lot of healing to do. The part about needing answers has been my downfall. I wanted to know why, what if, suppose, how could you, did you ever... It's driving me nuts. Today's post has renewed my resolve to stay steadfast in NC and get on with my life. I thought that just because we weren't being intimate and having told him we were finished was proof that I was on my way to geting over this breakup. Far from, as I was/am still engaging him and seeking answers. I would be doing fine. Days would pass & I would realise I wasn't thinking about him as much. Great! I'm getting over him.Then he would text me saying he loved me or missed or whatever crap. I sooo wanted to believe him and to understand the "why" that I would respond and try to "salvage" the relationship. Waste of time. Point #10 also struck a cord with me as well, as I determine how soon I get over him. What I've noticed is that I'm not as hung up about him as before - just angry. And I'm working on that. And I'm accepting that I'll never get the answers I need or the closure I crave. Time to get on with my life. *Acceptance* I’ve “broken up” with my parter going on two months now, and from reading NML’s post I realise that I still have a lot of healing to do. The part about needing answers has been my downfall. I wanted to know why, what if, suppose, how could you, did you ever…

It’s driving me nuts.

Today’s post has renewed my resolve to stay steadfast in NC and get on with my life. I thought that just because we weren’t being intimate and having told him we were finished was proof that I was on my way to geting over this breakup. Far from, as I was/am still engaging him and seeking answers.

I would be doing fine. Days would pass & I would realise I wasn’t thinking about him as much. Great! I’m getting over him.Then he would text me saying he loved me or missed or whatever crap. I sooo wanted to believe him and to understand the “why” that I would respond and try to “salvage” the relationship. Waste of time.

Point #10 also struck a cord with me as well, as I determine how soon I get over him. What I’ve noticed is that I’m not as hung up about him as before - just angry. And I’m working on that. And I’m accepting that I’ll never get the answers I need or the closure I crave.

Time to get on with my life.

*Acceptance*

]]> By: Loving Annie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/10-truths-you-need-to-accept-about-breaking-up-part-2/#comment-189679 Loving Annie Tue, 16 Sep 2008 14:54:07 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/?p=1247#comment-189679 6, 7, 9 and 10 really spoke loudly to me. So true, NML. So very very true. 6, 7, 9 and 10 really spoke loudly to me. So true, NML. So very very true.

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