From the archive: 12 Reasons To Dump a Man ASAP!
February 28, 2007 by NML
If you’re man is doing any of the following things, it may be time for you to lay down the law. Literally in some cases!
1 He’s used up all of his ‘lifelines’ with your friends and family.
Your friends and family no longer use his name and instead call him ‘Bloody [his name]’; ‘F*cking [his name]’;’That Bastard’; ‘Twat’ etc. Your friends and family have tried their best to accept him for you, but when he’s run rough-shod over you one too many times, and they can’t speak of him or utter his name without something negative, it might be a wise idea to say farewell. In situations like this, you’re family and friends do care about you more than he does.
2 He steals from you.
When he’s unable to be trusted around your valuables and you sleep with your hand on your handbag be very afraid! Robbing tenners from handbags is the stuff of teenagers, not full grown men in adult relationships. If he’s flogging your property behind your back to support his drug habit/child support/big ego there is absolutely no excuse and the best thing you can do is cut him out of your life, or if you’re feeling brave enough, call the po-lice!
3 He shows you no loyalty - Just call him Judas!
He allows his friends to slag you off either to your face, behind your back and in front of him. Bad enough that these people slag you off in the first place, but if he’s sitting there nodding his head like a frigging nodding dog, or even worse, joining in, he needs to have his arse bounced big style.
4 Pregnancy good. Commitment bad.
He wants to get you pregnant but he’s also saying that he’s not sure of commitment. Any man that wants you to make a lifetime commitment to a human life but is not sure whether he wants to live with you/marry you/be with you full stop needs a serious reality check. Any woman that wants to play Russian roulette in the hope that he’ll change, needs her head checked.
5 A cheater doesn’t change its game.
He’s cheated for a 2nd, 3rd, 4th time but swears it’s the last. It should be because you should dump his arse. It’s one thing for you to forgive him once, but for him to do it again is a pisstake. Tell him to get lost and have a chat with a counsellor about why you’ve repeatedly forgiven him. Break the cycle!
6 He’s won’t flex the plastic - Not the credit card, the condom!
He refuses to wear condoms and thinks that contraception is a woman’s responsibility. This is a blatant lack of respect and if he truly loved and respected you he’d bloody well try. Contraception and which one is used should be a decision made by both of you! It may feel great going bareback but it doesn’t feel so good when he’s not prepared to deal with the consequences of his actions. If a man truly respects you, no matter how much it feels like
7 He wants your friends more than he wants you.
He keeps trying to snog/screw your friends. Your man should have eyes for you and only you and if he keeps trying to get in your friends knickers, he’s not worth your time. If he’s trying it with your mates, he’s trying it with strangers.
8 He pretends you don’t exist.
If hasn’t told the people closest to him that you exist and you’ve been going out with him for more than 6 months or even worse years, alarm bells should be going off. In fact, you should be getting unexpected visits from the police and fire services because they can hear the alarm too. If he doesn’t want to acknowledge that he’s with you and share his life with you, don’t share his bed when it suits him.
9 He uses you as a punch bag.
He does his boxing training and uses you as his punch bag. Utterly despicable behaviour that no woman should ever have to put up with. Cowards like this are deplorable and the quicker you can get out, the better. Oh, and don’t forget to report him so that it’s more difficult for him to do it to someone else.
10 His special magic trick is disappearing.
Disappearing acts are his specialty and he doesn’t get in touch to say where he is. If he truly cared and didn’t want you to worry, he wouldn’t say he was going out for an evening and come back two days later with a dodgy explanation! If he thinks it’s too much effort to be forthcoming about where he’s been, he’s got something to hide. Tell him to live his bachelor lifestyle on his time!
11 He acts like your pimp, and you’re not a call girl.
If he’s not trying to get you to shag his friends in a threesome, he’s trying to coerce you into a swinging party. It’s one thing if you swing this way, but if you don’t want to do any of these things and all he tries to do is get you to do acts that you’re not interested in, he’s a an asshole that needs to be gotten rid of. Take your keys out of the bowl and drive like a bat out of hell out of his life.
12 He’s robbed you of your self-esteem.
Anyone who gives a shit about you will not spend their time trying to make you feel small. Relationships, whilst they have their ups and downs, must be built on foundations of mutual love and respect. Why should you spend your time with someone who only appears to want to belittle you and change you?
NML is the editor of Baggage Reclaim
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