Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Commandment 4: Thou shalt stop doubting yourself and get angry
May 30, 2008 by NML · 8 Comments
So imagine that you’ve broken up with someone, and each time your rational voice says something like “You know, this guy is a fool. Look at how terrible you were feeling when you were around him!”, you have a moment of clarity where you recognise the truth…and then the scared, insecure voice comes chiming in with, “But you know, maybe it’s because you’re needy and if you hadn’t asked him to spend more time with you, he wouldn’t have ended it” and then boom, you’re back in that place of self-doubt again.
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Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Commandment 3: Thou shalt stop fearing the pain of breaking up and confront it
May 29, 2008 by NML · 5 Comments
One of the things that is a primary destructive driver behind relationships is the F word, fear. In the Thirty Days of Drama Reduction series, it became apparent to many readers that their key motivations in their relationships was fear. That’s internal and external fear, which is why it is important when you want to heal and move on after breaking up that you remember commandment 3:
Thou shalt stop fearing the pain of breaking up and confront it!
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Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Commandment 2: Thou Shalt Not Obsess
May 28, 2008 by NML · 10 Comments
Yesterdays post was about the first commandment: Thou shalt cut off this ‘Let’s be friends’ mallarky, a call to action for any woman who has been caught up in the confusing world of being friends with their ex. Today’s post is for all of the ladies that love an assclown Mr Unavailable, and especially for women who have started the No Contact Rule. The second commandment of breaking up and moving on after a break up focuses on the tricky subject of women who can’t and won’t stop thinking about their exes.
Ladies, ladies, ladies, LADIES! There is a fundamental reason why I implore you to heed the commandment of ‘Thou shalt not obsess about your ex’:
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The Ten Commandments of Coping With and Moving On After a Break Up Series
May 27, 2008 by NML · 3 Comments
It must be break up season or something because I’ve had quite a few emails asking about how to cope with breaking up, particularly after applying the No Contact Rule or even the slightly less daunting Get Out Plan.
I’ve done the 10 Commandments of Breaking Up but in ten posts I’m going to dig a bit deeper and apply my thoughts on breaking up and moving on to The Ten Commandments of Coping and Moving On After a Break Up series. The first one….Thou shalt cut off this ‘Let’s be friends’ mallarky
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Relationship Advice: Should I tell my boyfriend that I’ve been cheating on him?
May 23, 2008 by NML · 6 Comments
Zoe asks: “I love my boyfriend but things have been a bit of a struggle for us over the past year or so. He’s heavily immersed in his work and he’s had some problems with his child’s mother which seems to have caused him to withdraw somewhat. I try to talk with him and also get us to be positive and move forward but he keeps telling me to leave ‘it’ alone and that he’s dealing with things in his own way.
This is difficult for me to admit……..but I’ve been sleeping with a colleague for the past six weeks.
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Relationship advice: Should I take my cheating boyfriend back?
May 22, 2008 by NML · 9 Comments
Carries asks: “I was devastated recently to discover that my boyfriend has been cheating on me with a woman from his work for the past 8 months. He was my world and I would do and have done anything for him and to find that he had been sleeping around has brought me to my lowest point.
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How to end up being the Other Woman
May 21, 2008 by NML · 4 Comments
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I’m currently working on the chapter about the Other Woman for my book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, and I have put together a list of reasons why the Other Woman may find herself in this dubious understudy role:
You’ll find yourself in this dubious understudy role if:
You have had a painful break-up or divorce that has left you feeling distrusting of relationships or men.
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Guest Post: The Cheating Detective: Whatever happened to following your gut?
The original Bad Girl and Baggage Reclaim’s old deputy editor, Vixen is back! Would you spend a few grand to find out if your man was cheating?
I was reading an old article of Cosmopolitan about a woman that’s carved a business out of being a cheating detective. She’s like a private eye with a twist! For about three to five grand, she will consult with you about your man, learn his hangouts and type of chicks he likes, and then set up a sting operation to catch him cheating. The level of cheating depends on you and how much you are willing to front, with some women going up to $10,000 asking her to set up their men in all kinds of situations.
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Guest Post: When you are Dickmotised
May 20, 2008 by Vixen · 5 Comments
The original Bad Girl and Baggage Reclaim’s old deputy editor, Vixen is back! Yay! This post is for all of you ladies that can’t walk away from the sex….
Definition: Dick-motosis occurs when a woman is with a guy that sucks in almost every single respect except one: he gives her really good sex. A woman that is dickmotised is in essence, hynotised so much by his good loving that she chooses to overlook or forgive all his other more glaring annoying qualities.
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Contributors and Guest Posts Wanted!
May 20, 2008 by NML · Leave a Comment
Baggage Reclaim has a new look and is getting bigger and it needs your help. Do you avoid dealing in a fine line in BS? Can you write informative, engaging, even entertaining posts that speak to women about the real issues and challenges they face? Do you have dating tips, relationships, or sex tips that you want so share?
I’m looking for regular contributors and guest posters so please get in touch!
Email me at nml [a] baggagereclaim.co.uk - please replace the ‘[a]‘ with @ and let me know what you’d like to write about and if possible include a link to a sample of a work if I’m not familiar with your blog/work already. Please DON’T send attachments.
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