5th December: How To Lose An Assclown in 90 Days…
Well it’s later than planned but I finally have a date for the print version of Get Over Him: How To Lose An Assclown in 90 Days….
So what is it about?
Right now, millions of women feel like they’re losing their minds over ‘assclowns’; men that mistreat women, are unable to commit anything yet insist on playing stupid, ego led games, and that offer little or no value to the woman or a relationship.
This goes beyond ‘bad boys’; this is the 21st century pain in the backside that hides behind sob stories, lame excuses, flip flapping, sexual frisson, his wife/girlfriend/ex wife or girlfriend, or even his work, to dodge the opportunity to either treat you decently, or end the relationship to free you from his clutches and his ego. Increasingly, a lot of these men don’t want to break up either…but they don’t want to be with you, or it has to be only on their terms.
Women love making excuses for these men, trying to raise them from the ground up and change them, and forecasting potential that doesn’t exist. We try to rationalise the relationship and what they do and when we can’t, we blame ourselves and try harder to keep these assclowns when we should be turning them loose. We’re filled with self-doubt and fear, choosing men that reflect the negative things that we believe about ourselves, again and again.
Get Over Him: How to Lose An Assclown in 90 Days is the book for learning how to cut off inappropriate men and relationships and take responsibility for your own misery, and in turn your own happiness.
It breaks down all of the classic excuses that women make for these men and their relationships such as If he wasn’t crazy about me, he wouldn’t keep coming back or If I’m patient and don’t pressure him too much, eventually he’ll see how great I am or We’re crazy about each other; he’s just scared! or He’s wounded and just needs the love of a good woman to fix him, and cuts through the fluff to explain the reality. It also explains how you can be drawn into the trap, or throw yourself willing into it, and how to recognise the pitfalls…and get out of them.
Get the lowdown on these men and realise that there’s actually ten a penny of that guy you think that is so special and unique, he’s not going to change (certainly not whilst you stick to him like glue), his problems aren’t yours, and that if anyone’s going to do the decent thing here, it’s got to be YOU.
Assclowns are grouped into five distinct categories of behaviour - Flip Flappers, Controllers, Liars, Manchildren, and Assholes.
From habitual Mr Unavailable’s, The Chaser and Permanent Daters, The Beaters, Narcissists, Cheaters, Pinocchios, Financial Drains, Recycled Teenagers and more, Get Over Him: How to Lose An Assclown in 90 Days is clueing you in, because if you’re serious about wanting better relationships and wanting to be happy with yourself, you’re barking up the wrong tree.
This is about getting over the ‘idea’ of him, coping with break ups, instigating the No Contact Rule or kickstarting with The Get Out Plan, plus other strategies to get you from self-doubt and devastation, from grief to clarity, to anger and hurt, to rebuilding life ‘after him’ and managing change so that you really can get over him, and every other assclown that’s ever clouded your mind, and more importantly, like and respect you at the end of it. Recognise poor behaviour, take action, and break patterns.
This is a print book due out on December 5th. More details to follow.
Any e-book copies will be previews or review copies which may be available earlier than Dec 5th. If you would like to arrange a review (blogger, magazine, etc), please email nml at baggagereclaim dot co.uk with your details.
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Cynnie November 19th, 2008, 8:01 pm
I can’t wait to read this book. Hmmm, I wonder what category the ex-EUM will fall into?
I’m almost out of the woods regarding him and I’m starting to feel much better. Looking forward to an interesting read.
lisaq November 20th, 2008, 12:34 pm
Oh girl you know I’m all over doing a review! Can’t wait to read it!
finallyseenthelight November 23rd, 2008, 8:06 pm
NML- I can’t wait to read it!!! I did all of the excuses over and over…I know it will be so helpful!