1. Keep it short term
It will get very complex if this drags out for more than a few weeks, especially if they are unaware of the existence of another. The longer you drag it out, the less likely you are to make a decision, and the more dishonest you have to be.
2. Be Honest
It is OK to admit that you are dating other people, but it’s dating suicide to give specifics, especially if you’re discussing each party with the other. Remember though, honesty may result in a defining the relationship discussion, or, he may start dating other people too. You’d be surprised how many people don’t like to be on the receiving end of their own behaviour! Also, they may start competing with each other.
3. Or, Keep It To Yourself
I’m not suggesting you make a regular habit of being dishonest, but in this situation that you have created, complete honesty may open a can of worms. Think of it more as withholding information. However, keeping it to yourself is only something that you should do on a short term basis and you should keep in mind that there is a possibility that if you are found out, he’ll ditch you for ‘duping’ him. Obviously if he asks you straight out whether you’re dating anyone else, be truthful!
4. No Sex
Sex will confuse things, not make it easier to choose between the two. Whether they know that there is someone else or not, most people aren’t comfortable in the knowledge that you’re screwing them both. Sex, if you’ve continued dating them, suggests that the dates are developing, and if they’re developing, make a decision before you ‘open’ up. Kissing is fine as it’s a good way of sussing out the chemistry and I would be wary of getting into doing everything but sex with either guy.
5. Be Organised
You don’t juggle men when you get easily confused. Make notes of any dates arranged and be careful when replying to texts and emails, as it is easy to write to the wrong person. Try not to speak with them both in the same evening and don’t do overkill on contact. Definitely don’t have them calling around unexpectedly and put your phone on voicemail or vibrate when you’re together.
6. Keep It Simple
Why complicate an already tricky situation? Keep it light-hearted, simple and easygoing. Don’t get too intense with either, and if you do, make a choice. Don’t make promises that you can’t keep and be careful of saying anything that implies that
7. Set a Deadline
It is easy to get carried away on the attentions of two men, but there has to be a cut off point. It is unfair to any of you if you string both along and remain indecisive. Set a date when you will either let one or both of them go, and stick to it.
8. What’s Good for The Goose
Let’s say that either of your guy’s are dating other people, you have no business being jealous. You can’t expect to be out playing the field and then expect them to be sitting at home pining for you.
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