A Guide to Having an Office Affair
October 4, 2005 by NML
Beep…beep…beep…you are awaken to at 6:00 a.m. by the sound of your alarm clock, upon opening your eyes dreams from the night begin to surface. You distinctly recall the face of a co-worker committing some of the most naughty, delicious acts with you…a smile creeps over your face, you find yourself a tad amazed and aroused that he has crept into your sleep.
As you enter the office you are feeling different today. A dash of smug, an ounce or two of sexy are the key ingredients to a little bit of bad. You are greeted by your co-worker in the hallway, a catlike grin creeps over you face as you purr” “Good Morning”, you ponder, “could he possibly be that good?”
Your work days become filled with sexual electricity, and subtle flirtation. Days fly by as you eagerly explore new ways to express your interest, yet not letting on to anyone else what game your dirty little mind is playing.
One day you notice him noticing you back. He makes up reasons to talk to you in your office; he lingers around longer that normal, his thigh brushes yours, he compliments you on your new dress, or your hair. Slowly he is prying into your life, yet, keeping a safe, sly distance so not to raise any eyebrows.
You decide …it’s time to talk. Taking action, you stop your co-worker and have a heart- to-heart. There is indeed a mutual attraction. You both agree to discuss this off-site at a selected location.
The meeting occurs and he steps in to kiss you. One thing leads to another and the next thing you know, weeks later…
Your scheduled off-site lunch meeting ends with a knock on the windshield of the vehicle, your co-workers hands is up your skirt revealing your thigh high stockings and garters, as you unlock lips and peer past him to the windshield you are horrified to see a uniformed police officer standing before you. Your co-worker rolls down the driver’s window and you are politely, yet firmly asked to leave the parking lot. I guess making out in a parking lot in the middle of the day wasn’t such a great idea?
Your heart is racing from the fun you’ve had being cut short by the threat of arrest for indecent exposure; chalk that up as a lesson learned. You return to work sweaty, passing your co-worker in the hallway periodically and the two of you giggle like school kids. You ask yourself, how has this happened?
The allure of an office affair can be quite consuming, attractive, and certainly add excitement to a boring work-day, and even to a stagnant marriage. But is it a wise decision to get involved in one?
What if you are correct in your thoughts that you co-worker is mutually attracted to you? What if you are wrong? Do you act on the mutual attraction? Do you steer clear?
Several things are to be kept in mind when contemplating an “office affair”. What are the marital statuses of the parties involved? Who could get hurt by this? Who wins? Who loses? Is there a company policy forbidding such a relationship? What about sexual harassment claims?
Like any other relationship that begins the desire, and interests of either party need to be considered and expressed. What is it the other person wants from you? Or you want from them? If you are considering a relationship that is outside of your marriage, these factors have to be weighed, as well as the consequences of your actions. You could end up being the biggest loser in the game. Losing your spouse, your dignity, respect from peers, and your job, or you could end up having just plain fun on the conference room table.
Equally important can you handle the heat? Keep a straight face, and keep things in perspective? How are you going to keep it under wraps at the office?
Here are a few tips:
#1Try not to linger in conversation with your partner in crime. Talk, casually, and comfortably, but don’t linger and don’t get quiet when everyone else is around.
#2 Don’t leave for lunch together. Don’t leave at the same time, and don’t think falsely that you can leave for lunch in one car, and everyone will believe your story about being “just friends”, unless of course you are the same sex.
#3 Try not to be seen together outside of work. Keep it as private as possible, until you want everyone else to know.
#4 Don’t confide in a co-worker thinking they will keep it quiet. They won’t.
#5 Remember when entering this type of relationship, that it could end, and how will you handle it if it does. How will the other person possibly handle it? Be prepared for both scenarios, and to deal with the aftermath.
#6 Most of all, have fun, and remember, if it isn’t fun, don’t do it!
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[...] Be careful of having office affairs. If you like your job, I say don’t sh*t on your own doorstep unless you’re very sure that this is something that is going to be serious. Crushes and attractions do pass, but having to face your superior who has been naked with you every day in work is not for the faint hearted. You could find youself leaving a job for someone that was just a shag. If you do have an office affair, enjoy but be very careful! [...]