You’ll never be able to trust a man than needs continuous validation from different women, I believe this man has serious self-esteem issues and needs regular ego stokes from many. This man will not change-like my ex- so I suggest you try and move on from this man and find someone who is capable of appreciating and loving you.

You know how I found out nabout all these lies. Intuition. We kept fighting about his confusion and bus. meetings and him logging onto jdate every few days.

Guess what. My intuion was right. I found on his computer an excel spreadsheet with over 600 profiles of women he e-mailed, ones he spoke to on the phone and the ones he actually dated (the past 6 months). One he took to a friends wedding (we had just broken up) and he took this girl he went on one prior date with.

The first time we got back together he drove all the way to come see me surprise me and take me out to dinner. At that point I was No contact. I refused to take his calls b/c he was hurting me by being so confused. He called me 5 times that day and when I didn’t pick up he surprised me at my door. When I looked at the excel sheet, i saw that he already had a date in my city earlier. hmmm. he really wasn’t going out of his way. he was right there and wanted a second date. He continued dating others while we were working on things.

Hmm.. after I confronted him about the excel sheet (he had a date only a week earlier), he was upset that I invaded his privacy. he swore he was done, and that he was confused and was gut checking. BUT NOW he is done and I AM HE ONE. He was ready to commit and ready to marry me. He told his family that I’m the one now and would get off of jdate. Yes, he did get off and turned the profile off. I still wasn;t convinced yet.

Well, trust had been broken and so I was a little mistrustful and hesitant. But, his family told me to move past it and move forward together. So i tried. But i kept checking things and found his other e-mail. Well, i found out instead of jdate, he was now on eharmony-much more difficult to track. He had just e-mailed a girl the day after he took me to the concert and told her about the concert!!! I was disgusted. completely horrified.

I confronted him again and broke up with him. I hope this is it. He turned it around and said i violated him and that he had only emailed these women and didn’t date them. hmmm. I don’t believe that. yeah maybe you hadn’t date yet, BUT you were planning to. Of course you wouldn’t go on a business mtg. yet. THis guy can and has lied to me with a straight face and he’s so convincing. my god. it’s so weird how safe i felt. It’s amazing how these guys can do it. B/c every weekend we were together. He never had weird things about answering the phone. I knew all his friends and family. They all thought we were getting married. I was there for him with his dad’s passing and with his family through everything. I really trusted this guy and he smashed that trust. I thought he was my best friend.

It;s so weird b/c other than that he treated me fairly well throughout-always took care of me, never let me pay, always picked up the phone, always made me coffee and cooked for me. from the outside he was so good. so convincing.

Lately we have been having more arguments because I am trying to get things on my terms and I found out that not only is his profile still on line but that he logs on every week . I hated to do so but I flashed him from a bogus profile, only a flash from an uncomplete photoless profile , and he sent me an e-mail with all his details .

I got on fire and the following day (two days ago) I dumped him , he said that he had unsuscribed from the site but that there have been an error with the subscription and they were charging him money without his authorization. When I asked him why he was still logging , he denied it , and when I asked him for the mail he had written to the bogus profile , he said it was automatic .

The amazing thing is that the guy is almost impotent and I was accompanying him every week for therapy (which I payed) . I feel so stupid now , Is there anything women wouldn’t do for a piece of love ??

I feel broken-hearted now but I think I have done the right thing I deserve better !!!!!

There are so many arguments about Dating Profiles still being active that if I was to date and become serious with a man who after we agreed to be exclusive was still active — no questions just dump his buttox. This guy in the paragraph above was totally turning the tables around on her while he was being the Jackarse. There are some people who don’t think it’s a big deal if they see someone is active on a dating site while they are dating someone — “trust” they say… well the writing is on the wall… but then again—it’s true it’s more about how someone reacts when you confront them about this—a normal healthy person would understand someone they are dating being concerned on whether they are dating other people if they are still active and will care about that other persons feelings—unless they truly dont care and will invalidate your feelings.

But this really sounds like a ‘Cosmo’ moment – the time to figure out what you want, ask what he wants, and decide if you can live with his goals. *Assume* that you won’t change his goals.

You need to confront him. You are thinking that you are in an exclusive relationship, that you have begun to build the last relationship of your life. If he has a different agenda, then you have to ‘just be friends’. Some apparently mature people consider dating a recreation in their life, rather than a search for a life-mate. A successful series of dates should let you build respect, learn about each other, and build the bonds and involvement that make a date your ‘significant other’.

Hint; One opposite of ‘committed’ is ‘looking around’.

it’s very one sided and protects the interests of the female.

men get screwed over all the time by women, for money, for marriage, for kids, and then get screwed over in divorces, custody arrangements, etc.

you need to re think this article.