Comments on: How do you heal a broken heart?

By: annied

annied — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:54:38 +0000

TakeHeart, I know you’re hurting.

Many of us here are in the misery of a breakup or the misery of the relationship. Both are miserable – but the good thing about a breakup is that you know (deep down) that things will get BETTER.

For those of us still in the miserable relationship, we know (deep down) that will NEVER get better.

Perhaps that is the hardest pill to sallow. I’d been at it for 3 years, so I guess I’ve been trying to justify my staying by fake-believing that this man could possibly fall in love with me. He’s not. Peace to you … and to all of us trying to heal our broken hearts.

By: TakeHeart

TakeHeart — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:40:19 +0000

Thanks to everyone on this site for helping me through a difficult breakup. After an intense six-month relationship, my EUM — definitely a mummy’s boy — broke it off with a phone call that left more questions than answers. One day he loved me more than life itself (or so he said), and the next he wanted nothing more to do with me. He initiated the NC and I’ve embraced it heartily after first begging and pleading with him to change his mind. How humiliating! Time now to take the focus off of HIM and put it where it belongs: on me. Some days are easier than others, but by reading through the posts here, I’m seeing where I went wrong by hoping someone else would provide the love I’ve never been able to give to myself. It’s difficult, but I’m trying — and the best of luck to all who are hurting and working toward self-love and self-esteem.

By: BTDT

BTDT — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:10:40 +0000

Wow, I just found this website last night and canâ€™t stop reading it. Its like having a 100 best girl friends telling me exactly what I need to hear. I just ended my A, 7 days ago by NC. Iâ€™m married, still no D day, thankfully. Iâ€™ve cried my eyes out, drank and smoked myself sick, and spent days in the clouds wallowing in my own self pity, occasionally breaking into the sunshine by listening to woman empowerment songs like Beyonceâ€™s â€œIrreplaceableâ€ and Pinkâ€™s â€œU and Ur hand.â€ Iâ€™m highly successful, well educated, affluent, and from all outward appearances have everything. I fell for a sweet talking single handsome man who was an emotional and physical mess, borderline homeless, devout Christian (or so he led me to believe). OMG, how did i EVER fall for him???? So hard it hurt. I felt like I had never felt this kind of love before. That this is what love is supposed to be. He had my heart locked up tight. I was willing to give up everything, my career, leave my 3 kids, my H, Crazy. And then i found out that he was cheating on me, not once, but three times that I know of. I never would have accepted this behavior before. The sex was amazing, he said all the right things, made me feel like I was the most beautiful woman in the world, his soul-mate, we were meant to be together, etcâ€¦wow. Hook, line and sinker. I do love him, probably always will, even after everything. I agree that you can still say â€œyou will always have a piece of my heartâ€, but you will NEVER control my heart ever again. NC has to be the way to do it. I tried to quit the A multiple times. This time I am sticking to it. This site has given me the strength to see the A for what it was, an addiction. I accept full responsibility for my actions though. I am the one who screwed up. Im working on repairing my marriage. Thank you to everyone out there for helping me.

By: Truly Lost

Truly Lost — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:50:52 +0000

Astelle & Patricia,

Thanks Ladies … I’m honestly tired of dwelling on this breakup. My life must go on.

By: Astelle

Astelle — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:39:58 +0000

Truly Lost, please don’t worry why he hasn’t responded to your farewell e-mail. Think about it, what response did you expect?
What is he suppose to say to that e-mail?
I have gotten farewell e-mails from guys after I broke it off, did I respond? No, there was nothing left to say.

Now, if you wrote that farewell e-mail to get an response out of him, then you will be in for a looooong wait.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:57:42 +0000

sweetie, you will here from him. We and i mean the broken hearted women and long ladies somehow have to understand men don’t love the way we do, why?because they see what love does to us and it is not cool. I miss my guy so much and it has been 3months nothing. We do and say beautiful hellos and goodbyes and get nothing in return. Love,miss him, hate him desire him but time will heal all wounds (that’s what i here). Smile

By: Truly Lost

Truly Lost — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:12:04 +0000

Gaynor,

Hey! Things are starting to look up and I’m thinking about him less by the day. The only think that stays on my mind is why he never responded to my farewell email. It was very nice, short and sweet. I guess I’ll never know…

By: Gaynor

Gaynor — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 02:36:34 +0000

You too, Truly!!!!

Happy New Year to all!! It’s going to be a great year!!!!!!

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 01:12:13 +0000

i too think volunteering is rewarding and help others. Is this not what we are doing for eachother? I don’t want to go out New Year’s i rather stay home and appreciate what i have been blessed with and rent some movies with a bottle of bubbles. No matter what i do he comes to mind, how in the hell i did not realize what the end result would be? Well thanks you guys for volunteering in my time of sadness and to others who really need help.

By: Truly Lost

Truly Lost — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:12:12 +0000

Gaynor,
I think volunteering is a great idea. I love to help others, so I’ll definitely do my research on that. I feel better today than I did yesterday. I guess any hint of progress is refreshing.Thank you. Have a Happy New Year.

By: Tulipa

Tulipa — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 10:01:48 +0000

Gaynor is right just keep going no matter how hard it is.. keep going out keep going to work keep in touch with friends and family … try new stuff… eventually you do think less and less about them… not easy and i still find days hard but once im occupied else where its so much better… writing helps I bought an excerise book and wrote and wrote … got lots of feelings out anger sadness truth i wrote ridiculous stuff sometimes it helped to not contact him as i would write how the conversation would run if i rang or texted etc.. it does get better honest truly …

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 07:04:10 +0000

H A P P Y N E W Y E A R T O A L L !!!!!!!!!

By: Gaynor

Gaynor — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 06:04:24 +0000

Truly,

The only thing that helped me was keeping super-busy. I increased my volunteer work, tried new activities and spent a lot of time with friends. The benefit to all this is that I was contributing to my community, found new interests and spent time with people i care about.

Try it! And keep posting!!!!

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:59:09 +0000

3 months i love him i hate him, sad songs I’m still not over him but refuse to communicate in any form with him. Remember they are Unavailable and he has made his choice. Love and desire is a beautiful thing embrace it i will not loose site of this. Write as i do, and we all will get through our hurt. Smile

By: Ernesta

Ernesta — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 00:16:25 +0000

I’m in the same situation. Very bitter about it. But time will heal the broken heart.