Comments on: Age Gap Relationships

By: Alegrialegria

Alegrialegria — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:46:18 +0000

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By: Alegrialegria

Alegrialegria — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:34:43 +0000

The more I try to understand society’s standards, the more I get confused !!!
If the man is much older than the woman, people call him “old dirty bastard” !
If the woman is much older than the man, people call her “cougar” !
My father is 15 years older than my mother, being married for 55 years, with 11 kids !!! > (today doesn’t happen anymore).
When I was younger, always got involved with much older man ! Now that I’m older, I get involved with younger man !
Older man offers SECURITY, wich is very very important to woman, (and men know that).
In general, woman outlives man by 7 to 8 years. (who wants to cry over a dead body ?!)
Also, lets consider the fact that one spouse is going to take care of the other when the end comes………(if is lucky enough !)
Make no mistake. Younger men feel “POWERFUL” being with older women !
And don’t forget that women don’t need “MEDICATION” to make love, when old age comes ! (thanks God !)
One thing seems to be certain : people usually “bet” that the older partner will never leave them for other younger one ! (not sure).
Well…….I miss the old good times, when everything seemed to be not complicated !

By: fred

fred — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 19:25:24 +0000

My wife is 30 and I’m 62 and we have been together for almost 10 years and still going strong. We have the blessing of her family and pastor. Is not about age is about caring for each other and more.

By: Julie B

Julie B — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 15:20:05 +0000

I am 21 years older than my partner of 9 years and we are as strong and united as ever, he’s my absolute rock and I has stabilising side, all his family have accepted me and my children with open arms and have discussed the age difference with his parents who said we allways knew he would end up with an older woman and couldn’t be happier for us both, so give and take it can work and last take it from me

By: sheryl

sheryl — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 10:41:04 +0000

I am married to a wonderful man who is 28 years my senior and in my opinion its anything but difficult. Infact its easier being with a man who is alot older me as it would be if i was with someone my own age.
We all know that it takes along time for a man to mature where as for females its pretty much instant at 18+. Me and my husband can talk for hours on end about politics, world affairs etc. Our spark is as though we just met and we treat each other as though we arnt going to live past the day.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 13:22:37 +0000

I really don’t think big age gaps make a difference, it is about how you connect as a couple. My partner is 12 years older than me and I have never been with anyone my own age who has made me as happy as he has, as soon as we met we just clicked. I thought it would be difficult and we would both want different things, and we do have our disagreements, but doesn’t everyone? So far though things are going well.
I would say don’t worry about what anyone else thinks, if you are happy go for it, worked for me!

By: lady tee

lady tee — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 19:42:06 +0000

I love older guys. They are not hung up on a lot of the things that younger guys are. And rumor has it that they make better lovers (It’s what I heard)I just met a guy 14 years my senior. Unfortunately on most days I do think the sun shines out of his____. Fortunately I know that will change as I get to know him. We vibes so well together that I don’t even think about the age difference. Trust that I have no qualms about setting him straight if need be. In no ways do I feel inferior. He is at a different point in his career but it is great because he can mentor me.

By: bethlove

bethlove — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 07:48:50 +0000

Thanks for the advice and inspiration. I have met a wonderful man at online site Agematch.com, he is 39, I am just 26, we interact each other and enjoy the age gap relationship. Also, age gap relationships are become more common and common these days, I think age difference is not the problem, the problem is sometimes you should know how to overcome the age difference and sometimes just enjoy the difference.

By: nysharon

nysharon — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 17:24:39 +0000

I am 49 and I always date younger men. I live in a small town and they are the ones available. I look young for my age so it works. I am open to dating someone my age or older but in the 3 years that I have been single, I haven’t me one that interests me (with age not being a factor). Sometimes it is just who is available.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 02:54:09 +0000

Picking a partner older or younger seems to be about choosing whether you want to skip the effort of finding an equal partner.

The older person is often considered more experienced, or has more seniority in the relationship. This can simplify figuring out who is responsible for what. But it can also limit the ability to adjust the relationship as each person grows, comes to know and understand their partner, and gain experience in life and in the relationship.

You might pick a younger partner specifically because they lack experience — and the defenses we learn to avoid the dangers of life. Note this is not a flattering reason to pick a partner.

I suppose someone that wants to make babies might pick an older partner, to deliberately pick someone with more ‘co-parent’ experience, or more resources (skills, money, connections, security). The down side of this is having to wear the ‘I am the junior partner’ label. This also reflects low self-esteem, assuming that you would need more help than a partner your own age might be able to provide. Being the junior partner also means a desire and willingness to be taken care of.

There are probably more reasons to pick a particular person as a partner than there are people in the world. The reasons people pick a partner older or younger might be much more important than the actual difference in age.

By: grant

grant — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 07:34:49 +0000

not sure about this age thing, physically on a piece of paper you might be older or younger, but for me its where yr head is at..! no rules…its more about having fun and compatability dont you think…? i,ve been with older, younger and when you get to mid 40,s …10 or 15 yrs aint much,,,depending on where yr head is at….guess as long as your in sync…go for it….whatever works…!

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 17:02:44 +0000

I can relate. Earlier this year I went out with a women 13 years younger than me. While we did pretty well (I did avoid all 70′s humor and references) it was more her friends and dealing with them that really pointed out the gap. Most of them were still in college and just hanging. It was weird.