Am I the Biggest You’ve Ever Had?
You’re both lying their in bed after a great sex session, and your partner turns to you and says, “Am I the biggest that you’ve ever had?” Now whatever way he chooses to phrase this, it makes for a very uncomfortable moment, even worse than the “Does my bum look big in this?” moment. The only answer that can be given when the penis size
question gets posed is “Yes.”
Unless the woman in question is looking for an excuse for an argument, it is highly unlikely that she’ll turn around and say, “Well actually, now that you mention it, Bill, Will, and Phil were very, very big. Yes, you’re definitely not the biggest.” She has no choice but to tell him that he’s the biggest, not too quickly of course because she doesn’t want to make him feel any more awkward than he already does, and then she’ll snuggle into him or go for a second round of sex.
But, lets get one thing straight that all guys should know: If you are the biggest, you will know about it! She will have told you, maybe because she loves how big it is and it makes the sex really great for her, or possibly because it’s left her in pain. If you’re very well hung she may even have been blown away the size and had to comment, but if you’re Dirk Diggler, I suspect that you know….
The only reason why a guy is asking, is to soothe his ego and to feel like No1, yet what he fails to realise is that he is No1 for her already (unless she’s screwing someone else and that’s whole different set of issues). Men are competitive and penis size to many represents their position and prowess with the female species. Since they grew a pubic hair, they’ve been comparing it to their peers in the showers, measuring it with a ruler, secretly rubbing their hands together with glee when she says she feels uncomfortable, and secretly fretting about where he fits in the penis league with his current partners exes.
The weird thing is that guys know what their penis size is. Most men are masturbating fairly frequently, so they know their length and girth and every bump, nuck and cranny of it. Others play a lot of sport or use a gym, and possibly see other guys todgers in the showers. So I pose this question:
Q: If a guy knows that his dick is not very big, what is he asking the question for?
A: To soothe the very large ego, one that is evidently bigger than his own penis. He needs reassurance that he isn’t ‘inadequate’ and that he is at the top of her list in all departments.
I won’t get into the size debate now, but size is not everything. It is about how the penis is used and the combination of the emotional and physical connection between two people. It’s different strokes, for different folks, literally, and someone can have the biggest penis in the world, but if he’s not working it like he should, it doesn’t matter one ‘little’ bit! Every relationship is different and a guy shouldn’t be comparing his penis size to someone that’s in her past, if he really does want to be a very significant part of her present and future.
I don’t think that this question should be revised so that it goes down better, excuse the
pun, and I think it’s best if it’s wiped from male memories and that men should focus on giving women some good lovin!
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