I wrote on my blog about my discovery of a frightening amount of pay-per-view sex channels which have become available because I have upgraded my TV package. The hilarity kicked in when I clicked on the ‘Anal’ section and was
confronted with the first title and description: “ Addicted to Butt – Four scenes featuring girls that just love to take hard c*ck.” (Note that I realise that I am childish for still loving toilet humour!)
Anyway, it has become clear that my female friends and I don’t know one woman between us that claims to like anal sex. Most women we know have tried it, but it seems that none of them were keen on going for second helpings!
Talk to guys though and they say that women (or should I say the ones that they have been involved with) love anal sex! Now it strikes me that there is a contradiction here. Are the guys lying their arses off, or is it the women? Has anal sex become the new ‘number of sexual partners’ or ‘cum swallowing’ conundrum? Both seem to cause some people to lie and minimalise the answer. We’ll admit to doing these, but we won’t admit to doing them a lot, or liking them. Twenty sexual partners becomes ten. Ten anal sex sessions becomes just the once. Coming to think of it, every woman I know has tried it ‘once’…
I conjured up some strange mental images when one particular commenter mentioned women liking to “pop their fingers” in his bum. A quick poll amongst my male friends and they all confirmed this. And here was me thinking that most women have manicured, sharp nails….
So tell me, is there a woman out there who does like anal sex? Or do women just do it once? And if they aren’t favouring the ‘backdoor’ route for themselves, are there women out there that ‘pop their fingers’ in bums?
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Yes, there are women out there that do enjoy anal sex, me included. The reason that we are able to enjoy it is because the men that we have done it with have approached the deed with patience and understanding and plenty of lubrication.
I have had 2 men in my life who have claimed to have “slipped”…..one got my fist to his jaw (sorry….I slipped-LOL). I never agreed to do the deed with them because of the way they tried to be sneaky. On the other hand I have had 2 men that have done it nicely and once you can relax (it almost ALWAYS hurts at first) it can be a very pleasurable experience for a woman, not to mention an alternative when the a woman is experiencing her time of the month. (I don’t mind doing it then although sometimes it is just way too messy.
Anal sex can be enjoyable with the right partner; one who understands the process of lubrication and patience. I have enjoyed anal sex and have even been the one to initiate it once I became comfortable with my body and my partner. You must really be in control of your muscles and know how to relax them to enjoy anal sex.
Yeah, I like it too, but your partner having experience and patience is a must.
I like anal sex but as other posters have said the man has to be patient, use plenty of lubrication, and heed your requests to slow down if necessary. I’ve also popped my (lubricated, and I don’t have long fingernails) finger in a bum – it’s intention is to massage the prostate of the man while performing oral sex on him. It’s said to bring about a very strong orgasm for the man – almost like an out-of-body experience. Feedback has confirmed this. Here’s the website I read about this on, and I’m in no way affiliated with it: http://www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm
anal sex is a wonderful experience for man and woman i like it even without lubrication wonderful submissive intercourse i recomend everyone to try it x
I looked up a web site called “The dangers of anal sex” and after reading all about it, I would never ever in a million years ever consider allowing anyone to do that to me..It is an eye opening truly honest site that tells all, so downright scary, I was so glad I found it, as it opened my eyes to what could and does happen. Sara
Sara, I agree with you, hence why I refue to do anal on any woman – I have too much respect for her physcial health to do that.
But this topic is a good section to bring up other acts. In short, there are women who do like acts and I like some acts a pure vanilla girl will not enjoy – I’m not a chocolate man, i’m closer to cherry vanilla. “That time of the month sex” is Great to me [as it was to my partner, particularly her thrill that I didn't have to use a condom], as is oral, particularly the giving part.
But I am sure there are women who would be put off by much of this. The thing is, I Know I cannot be with a woman who cannot go there.
The trouble is, how do we know how does and who doesn’t enjoy the same acts we ourselves enjoy, and how do we encourage greater comminucaiton on this matter? I know a guy who lost his girl of two years becasue she liked Kinky sex and he just wanted loving vanilla Sex. End result? She went back to her abusive ex to get the style she wanted.
And NO, the answer is not “Just don’t Do Those Acts.” That’s means I’m compromising my values for hers – not good for either of us in the long term. Especially if she likes anal but abhors recieving Oral [though loves giving oral]. I did that, we ended.
It’s really tough to work out sexual compatibility beforehand, and I’ve been burned on this many times. I don’t know, other than make sure you have sex fairly early and gauge how things are likely to go, make sure there’s communication and boundary setting even if the boundaries turn out to not intersect enough to make the relationship worthwhile.
Also, I like anal sex if the penis is small enough, and ‘time of the month’ sex including oral sex. My current partner is too large for anal to be comfortable for either of us, so I get him to use a butt plug sometimes. That might be a good place to start if you want to, as they can have pointy ends that are much easier to get in, so you can work your way up to having a penis in there. And yes, patience and lube!
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