The highly intelligent Dr. Annie from Smart at Love published a really important post on her blog recently. She asked 200 respondants to take a survey on her website and in it found out that only half of them actually ask the truly important questions about sexual health before getting intimate with your partner. Instead, we waste our time asking trivial questions, like “Do these jeans make me look fat?”, “Is she hotter than me?” and “Would you ever sleep with my best friend?”
Why do we prioritise superficial aspects first and our sexual health last? Is it because we are shy? Is it because we don’t want to truthfully examine our own past behaviors? Is it because we are so hot for him that regardless of what he says we will sleep with him anyway? There could be several reasons for this trend, but in this day and age—they are all excuses. We’ve got to ask the hard questions. Even if it might be a mood-killer, it opens the channels of communication and keeps you safe. It’s better to know what you might be dealing with sooner rather than later. Knowledge is power. Stay safe. Stay smart. Ask!
Before engaging in any sexual encounter with a member of the opposite sex, it’s very important to ask the crucial sex questions. No hanky panky until your questions have been answered to your satisfaction. You are the one in charge of your sexual well-being, so don’t balk at this. Annie enumerates these questions on her site.
- Are you married?
- Are you sleeping with other people?
- Are you already involved with someone else?
- Do you use condoms? What percentage of the time?
- Do you use any drugs?
- Do you have an STD? Have you ever had an STD? If so what and were you treated for it?
- Have you been tested for HIV/AIDS? When was your last test?
Read the rest of Dr. Annie’s article HERE.
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