Comments on: Bad Boy Lovers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Fri, 10 Feb 2012 23:22:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tess http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-144745 Tess Sat, 29 Mar 2008 10:35:40 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-144745 I think women confuse bad-boy behaviour and "Alpha-male" potential. We mate with the rebellious ones because they seem strong carriers of Alpha genes... But when you scratch the surface of a bad boy's veneer, you'll see underneath a pack of insecurities and weaknesses that are less than exciting. Bad boys dump good girls because they know that--if they were to stay in the relationship--the good girl would grow disgusted by the reality beneath the veneer and walk out. Bad boys don't really like themselves, which is why they're so hateful of others--they project their self-hatred outward. So, ladies, don't date a prince--date a king. Date someone who is truly strong and worthy. I think women confuse bad-boy behaviour and “Alpha-male” potential. We mate with the rebellious ones because they seem strong carriers of Alpha genes… But when you scratch the surface of a bad boy’s veneer, you’ll see underneath a pack of insecurities and weaknesses that are less than exciting. Bad boys dump good girls because they know that–if they were to stay in the relationship–the good girl would grow disgusted by the reality beneath the veneer and walk out. Bad boys don’t really like themselves, which is why they’re so hateful of others–they project their self-hatred outward. So, ladies, don’t date a prince–date a king. Date someone who is truly strong and worthy.

]]> By: Robbie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-67738 Robbie Fri, 05 Oct 2007 19:46:47 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-67738 "The" bad-boy doesn't exist. All guys can be bad-boys and all guys can be nice guys. It just depends on how much he feels for you. If a guy treats you badly it just means he is not 100% interested. So, just move on like the author said. “The” bad-boy doesn’t exist. All guys can be bad-boys and all guys can be nice guys. It just depends on how much he feels for you. If a guy treats you badly it just means he is not 100% interested. So, just move on like the author said.

]]> By: Gorgie http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-48977 Gorgie Mon, 25 Jun 2007 19:29:43 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-48977 ....i dunno...i mean, i totally agree but i feel it's too late for me...after 3 years i still hold my breath when i see him. i feel something sharp...through my heart....and I'm only 17...i'm a trypical good girl who fell for a loser-i feel stupid. and he doesn't regret it at all... ….i dunno…i mean, i totally agree but i feel it’s too late for me…after 3 years i still hold my breath when i see him. i feel something sharp…through my heart….and I’m only 17…i’m a trypical good girl who fell for a loser-i feel stupid.

and he doesn’t regret it at all…

]]> By: Nette http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-13204 Nette Mon, 26 Feb 2007 04:35:27 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-13204 To avoid the bad boys we must teach our sons and daughters self respect. My first love at sixteen became my husband of 23 years, four years after the break up Im only just starting to live my own life. On hindsight (a beautiful thing) an emotionally crippled father who emotionally crippled my doormat mother, really didnt give me hope. However, I have just passed my Psychology degree (Ive had so much therapy I thought Id get the exam), and have just got a great new job, and have a motorcycle. All these things wouldnt have happened with him around. So slowly but surely Im getting my life back, still scared to date though, as I dont trust my judgement just yet. To avoid the bad boys we must teach our sons and daughters self respect. My first love at sixteen became my husband of 23 years, four years after the break up Im only just starting to live my own life. On hindsight (a beautiful thing) an emotionally crippled father who emotionally crippled my doormat mother, really didnt give me hope. However, I have just passed my Psychology degree (Ive had so much therapy I thought Id get the exam), and have just got a great new job, and have a motorcycle. All these things wouldnt have happened with him around. So slowly but surely Im getting my life back, still scared to date though, as I dont trust my judgement just yet.

]]> By: NML http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-13149 NML Sun, 25 Feb 2007 18:13:25 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-13149 Bev there is nothing about this article that even implies that a woman is responsible for a man's bad behaviours. It very clearly says that if women don't want to be unhappy, they shouldn't persist with men that behave in this way. It's pretty simple to understand and funny enough, the only person that has the power to control that is the woman. If a man behaves in a certain way, a woman has two options - accept or reject. From the moment that we choose to continuously accept ill behaviour though, we have to take a partial responsibility for out own unhappiness. That's very different from blaming themselves for his behaviour. Each person is in control of their actions and responsible for their own outcome, so that DOES put the power with women if they want to use it. There is nothing wrong with YOU loving a man and hating his behaviours. That's YOUR choice, and YOUR power and that's the path you want. Bev there is nothing about this article that even implies that a woman is responsible for a man’s bad behaviours. It very clearly says that if women don’t want to be unhappy, they shouldn’t persist with men that behave in this way. It’s pretty simple to understand and funny enough, the only person that has the power to control that is the woman. If a man behaves in a certain way, a woman has two options – accept or reject. From the moment that we choose to continuously accept ill behaviour though, we have to take a partial responsibility for out own unhappiness. That’s very different from blaming themselves for his behaviour. Each person is in control of their actions and responsible for their own outcome, so that DOES put the power with women if they want to use it. There is nothing wrong with YOU loving a man and hating his behaviours. That’s YOUR choice, and YOUR power and that’s the path you want.

]]> By: Bev http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-13138 Bev Sun, 25 Feb 2007 16:46:16 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-13138 This article credits a woman with too little power, too much blame and not enough language that suggest a man must take responsibility for his own behavior. This article is blaming the woman for man ill behaviors, and it in essence releases the man of any wrong doing. It's saying if you like a man that behaves poorly that it is your fault so something must be wrong with you and your choices. This perspective then perpetuates the gross double standard of our society. There is nothing wrong in loving the man while hating his behaviors. It is not a women’s job to change him. It is his. As women we must be cognizant when someone’s behavior threatens our sense of self, health and well-being. It is also absolutely natural to respond to chemistry, and yes when you find a man that awakens every emotion, and so much sensation in your body, it is only natural to want it and to pursue it. Women should be empowered to ask for what they want, and not be made to feel ashamed of their desires. Thus I would caution the author of this piece with it’s subjugation of women. This article credits a woman with too little power, too much blame and not enough language that suggest a man must take responsibility for his own behavior. This article is blaming the woman for man ill behaviors, and it in essence releases the man of any wrong doing. It’s saying if you like a man that behaves poorly that it is your fault so something must be wrong with you and your choices. This perspective then perpetuates the gross double standard of our society. There is nothing wrong in loving the man while hating his behaviors. It is not a women’s job to change him. It is his. As women we must be cognizant when someone’s behavior threatens our sense of self, health and well-being. It is also absolutely natural to respond to chemistry, and yes when you find a man that awakens every emotion, and so much sensation in your body, it is only natural to want it and to pursue it. Women should be empowered to ask for what they want, and not be made to feel ashamed of their desires. Thus I would caution the author of this piece with it’s subjugation of women.

]]> By: Vixen http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/comment-page-1/#comment-3687 Vixen Tue, 17 Oct 2006 12:00:26 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/bad-boy-lovers/#comment-3687 LOL! Loved the last line... Like every woman, I went through my bad boy phase but it didn't last long. I quickly realised that it's all just a veneer, a coating of the insecure man with ALOT of issues behind it. Hopefully every woman will eventually reach her epiphany LOL! Loved the last line…
Like every woman, I went through my bad boy phase but it didn’t last long. I quickly realised that it’s all just a veneer, a coating of the insecure man with ALOT of issues behind it. Hopefully every woman will eventually reach her epiphany

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