Break Up Method: Let’s Take a Break

February 10, 2006 by NML

Most of us have done this at some point and it’s really just a breather before the real break-up kicks in. This is great if you need a little time to get your life in order (cold I know) or you just can’t make up your mind, but it’s a pain in the arse because it drags things out, and normally one of the people taking a break, just wants it to be over.

NML’s Recommendations
- This should really only be suggested if you genuinely think that a break may put some perspective on things.
- Breaks should not be for a day or a weekend, give it at least a week, ideally a few weeks if you really are having a break for the right reasons.
- Establish ground rules. ‘We were on a break!’ was uttered many a time throughout the Friends series and illustrates how two people have very different attitudes towards what a break means.
- A break is a break. Don’t keep calling and go out and enjoy yourself. Distance adds objectivity and ultimately if you don’t know what it’s like to be apart, how do you know if you have something worth saving?
Ideal for: Relationships only. You suggest a break to a date and they make think you’re a few sandwiches short of a picnic!