He’s Just Not That Into You - the Movie
April 5, 2007 by NML · Leave a Comment
“Ken Kwapis has signed on to direct “He’s Just Not That Into You,” an adaptation of the best-selling commentary on the complications of modern-day relationships.
Drew Barrymore and business partner Nancy Juvonen are producing the New Line project. The book was written by comedian Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, who worked together on “Sex and the City” as a consultant and writer, respectively.
The movie’s story line sees a hard-line advice guy fall for a woman who seeks him out because she can’t figure out the men in her life.”
I have to admit, I wasn’t one of the people who thought that the book was that great. I much preferred the episode of Sex and the City where Berger said it to Miranda. I found the book quite repetitive whereas the SATC episode made more than enough of a point for me, so maybe the movie will do for me what the book didn’t. Should we anticipate a revolution where women see the light about men who are unworthy of their attentions? Hmmmmm…..
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Kiss and Run: The Single, Picky, and Indecisive Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Fear of Commitment
March 16, 2007 by NML · Leave a Comment
Less than a couple of years ago, I made the startling discovery that I was a commitment-phobe. Maybe I should have realised that having chronic bad taste in men, fatally flawed relationships and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men was about my fear of giving too much of myself, but I used to think it was them not me. Fortunately running this site and my personal blog Tired of Men and ridiculing my dating experiences gave me a lot of insight, which I put to good use by sharing my knowledge of rediscovering yourself and being emotionally unavailable.
Kiss and Run by Elina Furman is definitely what you should be reading if you think you have a whiff of repetitive bad relationship behaviour. It has the feel of a friendly female friend dispensing knowledge and advice and opens up Pandora’s Box by explaining what is really going on behind all of our actions. The pickiness, indecisiveness, the I hate men so I’ll behave like men behaviour, making out like you’re a free spirit and don’t want to be pinned down, and much, much more is enough to make most women sit up and pay attention to themselves. What I especially like is the fact that it’s not about convincing you to become committed or stay single, but more a case of, if you make a lifestyle choice, make it for the right reasons and deal with your issues so that you are emotionally and personally happy.
I don’t think that it provides a lot of tools to constructively change the very bad habit of a lifetime but I think that this is a great read for getting an understanding of yourself and your patterns that enables you to start to think differently and be more conscious of your actions. You will still need some help on ensuring that the changes become habit forming but this is a brilliant way of kick-starting the process.
Kiss and Run
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Breakup Babe: A Novel
June 1, 2006 by NML · Leave a Comment
I promised I’d do it so we’d like to give a special shout out to a blog pal of mine Rebecca Agiewich aka Breakup Babe whose first novel is now ready to pre-order on Amazon. It seems like only yesterday when we found out she was getting published and now Breakup Babe: A Novel
I’m very excited for her and as a fellow blogger that’s not shy about debating the idiosyncrasies of dating and relationships, I look forward to soaking up the juicy details of her first book. Order now
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Date Scene Investigation (DSI): Even bad dating is a crime now
May 26, 2006 by Annie Dennison · Leave a Comment
The suspiciously-attractive sexpert and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D., has done the unimaginable: he’s written a handbook on dating and relationships, and I actually think it’s kind of clever.
Date Scene Investigation: DSI
What I found especially clever is the way the book’s “case studies” portray women and men as equal partners in crimes of love. Kerner’s got to know that women buy the majority of dating and relationship books, but he wasn’t about to portray men as the only bad guys. So he ends up poking fun at both genders.
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Review: Unhooked Generation
March 24, 2006 by Annie Dennison · Leave a Comment
It’s not hard to find single women in their 20s and 30s, bitching and moaning about the frustrations of pursuing men who won’t commit. But that’s not the whole story. When you get right down to it, these women often have mixed feelings about commitment.
And Unhooked Generation tells you why.
The book is based on Straus’ interviews with 100 single, Generation X men and women in their 20s and 30s, and her own experiences as a thirtysomething single, urban professional. Before conducting interviews for the book, Straus had already interviewed hundreds of people as a producer for 8 years on The Oprah Winfrey Show. In other words, the woman’s got some credentials.
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Book Report: How to Succeed With Men
January 27, 2006 by Annie Dennison · Leave a Comment
Our resident love guru Dr. Annie reviews “How to Succeed with Men“, an insider’s guide to getting and keeping the man you want.
“The truth is, men can handle a powerful woman.”
That’s the opinion of David Copeland and Ron Louis, co-authors of the ambitious book, How to Succeed with Men. And you know what? I agree with them.
In fact, I think they’re spot-on when they start the book with “Eight Myths About Dating You Can’t Afford to Believe”:
1. Men Can’t Handle a Powerful Woman
2. All the Good Ones Are Married or Gay
3. Men Have Fragile Egos
4. All Men Are Jerks
5. All Men Want Is Sex
6. Only Women Suffer
7. Men Understand What You Want and Are Just Being Difficult By Not Giving It to You
8. Men Can’t Commit
If I’m honest with myself, I probably hold on most tightly to Myth #7. And yet, I have no problem understanding why women hold on tightly to any, or all, of these generalisations. After all, even these male co-authors admit that “…having a man in your life can be one of the most annoying experiences you’ll ever have.”
Of course, all people — men and women — can be annoying in dating and relationships. That’s why we need to ask ourselves, “How much annoyance do we tolerate?”
Apparently, Copeland and Louis feel that one of women’s biggest mistakes is not being tolerant enough, especially during the earliest stages of dating. My first reaction to that crazy concept was, “You’ve got to be kidding! Women accept unacceptable things from the men in their lives all the time.”
As I got more into the book, though, I think I saw their point. They’re referring to what they call a “male shell of jerk energy” that is thin and penetrable. It’s that rough-around-the-edges quality that some (maybe many?) men have. But it’s mainly about doing occasional jerky things, which is not the same thing as a man with a jerk core. A man with a jerk core is a waste of your precious time.
How to Succeed with Men tells you how to separate the guys with the jerk shell from the guys with the jerk core. I didn’t always agree with the way the authors defined that separation, but I still think they provide solid suggestions for pre-qualifying, qualifying, and disqualifying any man you date.
By the way, Copeland and Louis warn a woman against having sex too early, before she has the chance to fully “qualify” a man for a potential relationship. The faster sex happens, the more likely a woman is to look for reasons to justify why she had sex in the first place — when she might really need to be disqualifying the man. I definitely agree.
So, does Doctress Annie recommend this book?
I do. And speaking of “I do,” there’s a significant section in this book devoted to the topic of commitment. That includes “15 Commitment Killers,” “8 Signs He Is Ready for the Commitment Conversation,” and “14 Steps of a Successful Commitment Conversation.”
This book might just change what you do with men.
‘How to Succeed with Men’ is available from Amazon for £6.99
(© 2005 Annie Dennison – All rights reserved)
Annie Dennison, Ph.D., is a dating adviser, psychologist, and writer. Her blog Smart at Love, provides a steady stream of practical love life advice to smart single women. She lives in Southern California, and is happily married to an Englishman with nice sideburns.
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Book Report: The Game
January 6, 2006 by Annie Dennison · 2 Comments
At the beginning of his book, “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists,” bestselling author Neil Strauss makes this plea:
Like any self-respecting woman who thinks she can’t possibly be manipulated, I immediately took his plea as a challenge. Of course I was going to be outraged with this player and the story of his undercover, two-year rise to guru status in the shallow, seedy brotherhood of pickup artists (PUAs).
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