Healing Heartbreak: The Power of Acknowledging Your Role with Compassion

Part of processing the breakup of a painful relationship is talking about what the person did and didn’t do. It’s reminding ourselves of how much they hurt or disappointed us, lest we forget and get sucked into going back. We’re grieving the loss of our relationship....

Breakups Are Often Catalysts For Self-Discovery… If We Pay Attention

When we view a breakup through the lens of our untruths, we see the undesired outcome as proof of our unworthiness. So many of us mistakenly believe breakups and incompatibility are signs of failure. Of course, this affects how we show up for ourselves and within...
11 Signs You’re in the Wrong Relationship and That It’s Time to Break Up

11 Signs You’re in the Wrong Relationship and That It’s Time to Break Up

Knowing if we’re in the right relationship or whether what we’re experiencing signals that it’s time to break up is something so many of us struggle with. As difficult as this is, if we don’t know when to leave, we won’t know when...

Does falling off the No Contact wagon mean starting over from scratch?

You made the decision to go No Contact after your breakup. Whether it was because the relationship was unhealthy or because you were struggling to cope without clear boundaries and self-care, No Contact was necessary. And for a time, you managed to keep your distance...
Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

Why Your Ex Still Reaches Out Periodically: Intermittent Reinforcement

I hear from so many people who have an ex they ‘randomly’ hear from out of the blue, typically via email or text. And these exes range from people they went on barely a handful of dates with, to people they dated but who didn’t feel ready for a...

Tips: How to Break up With a Lovely Person

Newsflash: Lovely, nice, sweet, fantastic, considered-wonderful-by-society’s-standards people have breakups. Far too many people, though, behave as if only “bad” people should get dumped or have their feelings unreciprocated. There’s also this sense of it...