Relinquishing Your Addiction To Someone
Hot Alpha Female explains why women keep running back to their exes and how instead of placing these guys at the centre of their universes, these women have to make themselves the focal point of their lives by creating their own meaning.
No Ex On The First Date
You’re on a date. You’re both nervous and you make polite chit chat. Maybe you order a drink and loosen up a little and you’re both tentatively finding out about each other. You start talking about dating/relationships/how you’ve come to be on this date and somehow the conversation slips into the shock infested waters of [...]
Advice: Why won’t he contact me?
Last month I advised Astelle with Advice: Help me understand how my emotionally unavailable man has been treating me and Advice: Why did he respond if he’s not interested in me?. To do a quick recap, Astelle was involved with an emotionally unavailable man who she wouldn’t hear from for long periods of time unless [...]
Advice: What’s the difference between emotionally unavailable and he just wants to break up?
“How can you tell the difference between a guy who’s emotionally unavailable and a person who simply decides to withdraw and breakup because there wasn’t enough there to make it a long term relationship? How do the two differ?
I’ve had my brush with a Mr Unavailable already - and it really broke my heart. I [...]
Advice: Do emotionally unavailable men change or should we just have an open marriage?
“I’ve been involved with an EUM man now for 15 years. I was only 23 when we met. We’ve had 4 children together. The last 3 yrs were very difficult. Deaths in the family, problems with a son. He started blaming not being intimate with me on everything from work, to the kids, feeling sick, [...]
Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 3
I won’t lie to you ladies; initiating and maintaining the No Contact Rule is hard. You need to grow balls of steel to support your willpower and be prepared to suffer the short-term pain for the medium and long-term gain. The No Contact Rule (NCR) is about putting yourself first and you need to do [...]
Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 2
The No Contact Rule means that you have to go cold turkey but you put yourself in the driving seat, create your own closure, and you start to control the relationship that you have perceived as uncontrollable. It is an exit strategy and trust me, you will use the No Contact Rule if you truly [...]
Breaking Up and Moving On By Cutting Contact. Part 1
A while back, Rose City Girl explained the No Contact Rule which drew in quite a few comments. More and more of you are writing to me wanting to know more about the ‘no contact’ rule and how to move forward.
The No Contact Rule is a delicate balancing act between taking back control, booting someone [...]
Advice: Is it my fault that we broke up?
I met a guy last year who had been separated for six months after being married for nine and had two kids. He was upfront about this on the night I met him. I’d approached him in a pub by telling his friend I liked him. The following day he rang me constantly, which was [...]
Advice: Help me understand how my emotionally unavailable man has been treating me
On Thursday, Astelle wanted to know why her emotionally unavailable man (Mr Unavailable) kept returning her contact when he wasn’t interested. In a follow up to the advice I gave her, Astelle has some more questions
1. Is it Astelle he doesn’t want or he doesn’t want any woman?
He doesn’t want any woman. Emotionally unavailable men [...]
