Some (OK my blog buddy Lance) would say he hasn’t got any game or doesn’t know how to close, but..combined with some other things going on, you are around a guy who has ‘other things’ going on. He’s just out of a break up…. Instead of being armed and ready for a great flirtation next time you bump into him, restrain some of that eagerness, not only because you are likely to reveal his true intentions but also because he sounds like one of these guys who won’t come running if you make it easy for him.

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Children are not baggage and you can’t change the fact that you are divorced or have had a messy break-up, but emotional baggage of the unresolved kind is highly unattractive and a surefire way to drag yourself down to a level that can be difficult to climb back from when your self-esteem is walking off down the street in his hand…. It’s easy to think that you don’t have issues when you’re comparing, but t he combination of the types of baggage that we carry can end up being quite explosive and every time we end a relationship with these overloaded Mr Unavailable’s, they leave the gift of some luggage behind for you.

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He might treat the chaperone/duenna thing as a joke, or he might appreciate the chance to get to meet you without turning off brains to grope bodies. If he isn’t interested unless he has you halfway stripped and groped ñ well, you learned how much to trust his, ìWell, sure, I will respect you in the morning.

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He says that he cares about me but I keep hearing little things about him flirting with other women Even though he is p*ssing me off, I’m really in love with him and I don’t want to believe that I have wasted my time with him…. These men use work to manipulate you, much like cheaters that you meet at work - they use the fact that you are at work to make out like there are restrictions to how much you can be with each other because of the work environment, when actually, it’s because they’re assclowns with a wife, or other women that they are chasing.

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My friends over at Honey and Lance are doing a contest about successful relationships and this is my answer to the burning question: “How do you define successful relationships, and what does it take to achieve that success?”
Successful relationships mean different things to different people. Some people believe that they’ve had success after finally shoving […]

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One thing women are really good at is self-blame. When we are mistreated, the first thing we do is internalise the problem and wonder what we did to cause it.

I keep wondering what I did to scare him off

It must be something I did; he was so attentive at first

Maybe if I hadn’t asked for so much, he would still be around

Maybe I want too much and he doesn’t think that he can please me

I think he thinks I’m needy and clingy

And then…Oh.My.God. I’m a Drama Queen/Drama Seeker. This is why our relationship hasn’t worked out. It’s all my fault!!!!!!!

Well I’m about to rip the needle off the record for you and give you a reality check.

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Fear is behind the trigger than kickstarts much of the Drama Seeking behaviour that women are behaving in. If you know that you react to fear, you can grab fear by the balls and take control. The key is, is the fear real, or are you creating it all in a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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On Day Four of the 30 Days of Drama Reduction series, Cheekie shares a very funny, but highly useful perspective on not being a drama magnet….
Drama Magnet….Yup. That’s me.
Honestly, I could be sitting here, knitting or something equally as tame and BAM!
An email/comment on Facebook/text/phone call…and suddenly the drama machine is in overdrive.
How do I […]

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On Monday, I’ll be starting a Thirty Days of Drama Reduction series. Every day I’m going to post an insight and tip about the inadvertent quest for drama and how to overcome your drama seeking tendencies so that you can learn to gravitate towards healthier relationships and also give a boost to your self-esteem.
There are […]

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You’re on a date. You’re both nervous and you make polite chit chat. Maybe you order a drink and loosen up a little and you’re both tentatively finding out about each other. You start talking about dating/relationships/how you’ve come to be on this date and somehow the conversation slips into the shock infested waters of […]

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