“I’m a 35 year-old journalist from Brazil and I’ve been dating a 22 year-old girl for three years now (she was 18 when we met). To make a long story short: after six months of dating, she stopped having sex with me. She says she hates her body (she is a little bit overweight, but [...]

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I realised after years of dodgy boyfriends and dates that two people see things very differently and that you need the judgment skills of a crime scene investigator to work your way through the minefield of dating.

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It doesn’t matter that there has been some addressing of the gender balance and that by rights we should be equal because when it comes to who should pay on dates, particularly the first one, the finger is often pointed in the direction of male wallets. Guys paying for dates is one of those understood [...]

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I remember being on a date with an ex and him asking me what my previous boyfriends profession was. “He’s an IT contractor” I replied and I noted that a dark look passed over his face. Later after a few drinks he whined “I’m just a lowly mechanic in comparison to your rich ex. Why [...]

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Put it on silent or vibrate.
Don’t take calls or text throughout the date. Go to the bathroom. But obviously don’t spend most of the date taking calls ‘surreptitiously’.
If there is an urgent call that you’re expecting, explain at the beginning of the date. Put your phone on the table so that you can see it [...]

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If there is a surefire way to knock yourself out of the running with a potential mate, it’s by perceiving yourself to be out of their league, which essentially sends an internal message to yourself that you’re not good enough for them. The very belief that someone is beyond your means that you would approach [...]

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Don’t discuss your ex’s. No matter how tempting it is to dissect your previous relationships, the time and the place is not on a first date. Surely there must be more than your ex-lover to discuss?
Make an effort. Whether it’s with your appearance or just putting in the time and effort to have a conversation, [...]

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1. Keep it short term
It will get very complex if this drags out for more than a few weeks, especially if they are unaware of the existence of another. The longer you drag it out, the less likely you are to make a decision, and the more dishonest you have to be.
2. Be Honest
It is [...]

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I was choking on my breakfast as I read these date suggestions which are supposed to leave a lasting impression over at The Whoracle (what a name) which is part of the Oracle for Henderson State University. These will leave an impression alright…it just won’t be a good one…
“*Use your fake Sam’s Club card to [...]

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Dressing for dates is a tricky business because not only can bad choices leave us dreadfully uncomfortable but they also create a first and sometimes lingering impression. From looking like an Oompa Loompa, flashing thong, showing too much breast, wearing ill-fitting clothes, to dodgy bodily hair and VPL’s, here is my rough guide to what [...]

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