It doesn’t have to be an absentee father or a ‘bad’ father; it may just be that the significant male figure in our life didn’t express his emotions or made you work hard for his attentions and affections, and for all intents and purposes, he was emotionally unavailable…. Or if he never turns up, you not only fear abandonment by all men, but at the same time you may seek a relationship where you let them have more control, in the hope of finding that intangible feeling of comfort that you have been missing from your father all of your life.

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Today on day 3 of the 30 Days of Drama Reduction series, Hot Alpha Female shares an empowering call to action…
Ok I have to admit something to you guys, I was having a little trouble of thinking of something to talk to you about and while I was surfing the site, I thought to myself, […]

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Canada asks “How do you heal a broken heart? When you’ve really cared about a person and they unexpectedly end things with you, you can’t help but feel low and defeated.
How do you pick yourself up and move on even though you’ve got so many feelings for this person? What should you tell yourself to […]

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Hot Alpha Female explains why women keep running back to their exes and how instead of placing these guys at the centre of their universes, these women have to make themselves the focal point of their lives by creating their own meaning.

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Hot Alpha Female writes
Being single - It’s great! I love it and you should too. Why is it that we are so scared to be alone anyway? Are we ever really alone?
I know heaps of my girlfriends that seem to be jumping from one relationship to the other and it makes me wonder when […]

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There is one thing that is missing out of my relationship with the boyf and it’s drama. I don’t miss it, I don’t want it and when I think back to previous relationships and this one, aside from the fact that they were all annoying assclowns, there is a serious lack of drama.
We have a […]

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I know I know - A lot of you may be thinking … what is Hot Alpha Female on about now?! Well let me explain because I guarantee that a lot of you have been in this situation. This post came from a realisation that I came across today. It was quite shocking actually .. […]

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What’s the difference between an emotionally unavailable man and a narcissist? A thin line and someone defining it, but there is a line there nonetheless.
Since I published my ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl which focused on the behaviour of emotionally unavailable men, I’ve had several emails requesting that I discuss the subject of […]

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When it comes to dating and relationships, ‘attraction’ can be a word that automatically let’s us off the hook for engaging our brain in any rational thinking. “I’m so attracted to him; I just can’t fight it” she says even though she really should fight ‘it’ because he’s treating her like a booty call even […]

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Hot Alpha Female writes
So life is going great. You’re doing the flirting, meeting the people, and enjoying your dates. Then SMACK! …..You find a guy that you’re crazy about and your world comes crashing down, but in a kind of good way. You can’t stop thinking about him and the fairytale romance you see […]

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