A few days ago I wrote about The Justifying Zone, that slippery slope that women can find themselves on when they stick with a guy so that they can justify their emotional or sexual investment, even if they recognise that that the relationship is doomed. A couple of male commenters raised the point that sometimes [...]

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The Justifying Zone is that slippery slope that a lot of women find themselves in, especially after they have sexual contact with a guy. Many of us feel that we need to justify our emotional and sexual investment and this justification is effectively attempting to close the door after the horse has bolted.
The Justifying Zone [...]

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I’ve been reading a couple of thought provoking posts over at one of my favourite blogs 40s Singleness, in particular a post about women loving jerks being a dating myth, and of course it’s got me thinking.
Women do love jerks, i.e. the perpetual ‘Bad Boy’. Or if we put it in a language that makes [...]

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Traci asks “I feel like I fell for an emotionally unavailable guy mostly because I was dealing with a tragedy and was more vulnerable than usual. I attached myself to someone I had only begun dating who ended up being an emotional unavailable guy (I got one good cry on the shoulder experience and then [...]

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Wishing you all a fabulous 2008!
I’m not big on new years resolutions but I do think that the new year represents an opportunity for growth and change. Psychologically you can relegate someone, a dubious relationship, or an issue you’ve been struggling to let go of, to last year. New years tend to bring the promise [...]

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A reader commented on the The Mr Unavailable Guide that “I think it is too damaging to start labeling oneself as being attached to unavailable men…the problem is declining values. We all need to find a way to be honest to our would-be partners; we need to be able to say what our needs are, [...]

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“Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than just the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it [...]

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Over at Advice from a Single Dating Expert, Evan responds to a few readers who want to know why men don’t like strong, successful women. The standout part of this great article was when he discussed the flip side of your characteristics.
“I’m intelligent, I’m direct, I’m successful, yet I can’t seem to find a quality [...]

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“The way you make me feel…You really turn me on” Michael Jackson.
It’s comforting to know that the next line wasn’t “But it’s a shame about [insert whatever bugs you here]”
I recently sat with a woman who was lamenting her relationship woes. She was miserable because she thought that she was on the verge of [...]

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Throughout your dating and relationship history, you’ve ended relationships and felt that whatever had happened had galvanised change, only for you to find yourself in a similar or worse situation all over again. But if you have truly experienced self-defining, life galvanising change as a result of a relationship, you have experienced an Epiphany Relationship.
An [...]

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