Second Best syndrome - I come across a lot of women who are for example, The Other Woman and they are used to coming second because they may have grown up in a house where they believed that another sibling was loved more than them, or they just generally had to compete with something or someone for their parents attention…. Even if you were not emotionally unavailable yourself when you met a Mr Unavailable for instance, unless you realise what you’re dealing with and get out quickly, it is very difficult not to leave the relationship emotionally unavailable yourself because they almost end up teaching you a whole new relationship style.

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I know I know - A lot of you may be thinking … what is Hot Alpha Female on about now?! Well let me explain because I guarantee that a lot of you have been in this situation. This post came from a realisation that I came across today. It was quite shocking actually .. [...]

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What’s the difference between an emotionally unavailable man and a narcissist? A thin line and someone defining it, but there is a line there nonetheless.
Since I published my ebook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl which focused on the behaviour of emotionally unavailable men, I’ve had several emails requesting that I discuss the subject of [...]

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I have been involved with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have recently become long distance, but were in the same city for a year and a half. He has rage issues. He gets mad at the smallest of things and if he does, watch out. I’ll give you an example:
We [...]

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“I left my abusive marriage 5 months ago - we had been together for 11 years in total (I am 29) and he was the only guy I have ever slept with. I feel really positive about leaving him and although it was hard, it’s the best decision I ever made. I met a really [...]

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He is very jealous and possessive and tells you that this is a sign of his love for you. Jealousy and possessiveness in it’s extremes are used to control a person and it also allows the offender to take no responsibility for their attitude and put the onus on you for them to be different. [...]

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I got a long email from a reader the other day in which she detailed the course of her relationship with the first guy she ever had sex with. They were together for 14 months and started having major problems. His excuse was that she was too needy and he couldn’t deal with it. “Before [...]

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I’ve had some lovely quality time to myself for almost a week which has meant that I have got to watch more daytime crap than I have in a long time. Jeremy Kyle, Ricky Lake, This Morning, Oprah, Montell and Judge Judy have all had a bit of my time over the past few days [...]

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