I was emailed recently by a reader who wanted to know if she should confront The Other Woman after discovering that her husband had been cheating.
“NML, I feel like my entire life has been shattered. I want to speak to this woman. I want to know why she thinks it’s OK to screw someone else’s [...]

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If someone had suggested that I would ever be The Other Woman (TOW), I would have laughed them out of town and told them to F off, but somehow I found myself taking up the role with gusto for 18 months. It was without a doubt the most foolish, damaging thing that I have ever [...]

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Over at the The Mr Unavailable Guide, the companion blog to Baggage Reclaim, it’s been rather quiet for the past while. It’s become evident from the surprising number of readers, emails and comments that the phenomenon of chasing emotionally unavailable men is rife out there. It’s even scarier when you see how many women have [...]

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When I come across women who love emotionally unavailable men (including myself who is a recovering addict), I always ask: Where the hell did we all go wrong?
A common thread with a lot of us is that at some point our heart took a pounding. Most of us have tale of man who let [...]

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So it seems that there is a scientific reason as to why us ladies sometimes obsess over one night stands - According to the Jan issue of the UK Cosmopolitan, if and when we are lucky enough to reach orgasm, our body releases the ‘trust drug’ oxytocin which “floods your brain and persists for several [...]

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There are certain things that will throw up a red flag that may indicate that your man has other interests that potentially involve giving another person a good seeing-to.
He’s routine to the point of being obstructive to the relationship. Yes some people are anal. Yes some people have obsessive compulsive tendencies. But if a guy [...]

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So you’ve found yourself caught in a triangle. Just so you don’t get too comfortable, remember these things!
1. Every woman who is The Other Woman thinks that they’re situation is unique. It’s unique because you’re in it, but when you strip away the reasoning, the excuses, every ’situation’ has the same core elements.
2. Ever man [...]

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I got a long email from a reader the other day in which she detailed the course of her relationship with the first guy she ever had sex with. They were together for 14 months and started having major problems. His excuse was that she was too needy and he couldn’t deal with it. “Before [...]

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Back in June, I wrote about Coping With Being the Other Woman which gave tips for any woman who had found herself relegated to second place due to being with someone else’s man. Ultimately my advice was and is not to cope, but I was surprised at the stories and emails that have come through [...]

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