Hot Alpha Female writes
So life is going great. You’re doing the flirting, meeting the people, and enjoying your dates. Then SMACK! …..You find a guy that you’re crazy about and your world comes crashing down, but in a kind of good way. You can’t stop thinking about him and the fairytale romance you see [...]

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One of the things I learned about dating is that in order to survive, you need to be able to smell the BS coming from a mile away otherwise assclowns a plenty will suck up your time, reduce your self-esteem, and end up making you believe that dating is for suckers. One of the classic [...]

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On Thursday, Astelle wanted to know why her emotionally unavailable man (Mr Unavailable) kept returning her contact when he wasn’t interested. In a follow up to the advice I gave her, Astelle has some more questions
1. Is it Astelle he doesn’t want or he doesn’t want any woman?
He doesn’t want any woman. Emotionally unavailable men [...]

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“I’ve been reading your blog and I think I was just in a yo-yo relationship with an emotionally unavailable man.We have been on and off for the past 2 1/2 years - he broke up with me twice (once because he didn’t feel like he could give me enough and the second time, he didn’t [...]

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JJ asks “I have been hurt in the past and went into a long phase of meaningless two month “relationships” and one-night stands before deciding upon abstinence, when lo and behold I met someone. He’s everything I always thought I really wanted - intelligent, funny, outgoing, and hot - but never had the guts to [...]

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“I met a guy at work, who at the time had a long distance relationship going on 5 years. We somehow started talking at work and soon, we were IMing all day long. At the beginning, I had no feelings for him. He was just a cool guy at work that I started talking to. [...]

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Relationships are about give and take. I don’t expect anyone to stand there taking scores because this in itself creates a negative atmosphere for a relationship, however, in healthy relationships there is an overall healthy balance of give and take without having to kill yourselves getting that balance and there is certainly no need for [...]

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I recently wrote in my column about the author Josephine Cox, esteemed peddler of women’s fiction pondering whether her and similar authors “have unwittingly failed a whole generation of women by seducing them with false ideals of love and romance…”. The biggest topics on this blog are anything connected to emotionally unavailable men and being [...]

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A reader commented on the The Mr Unavailable Guide that “I think it is too damaging to start labeling oneself as being attached to unavailable men…the problem is declining values. We all need to find a way to be honest to our would-be partners; we need to be able to say what our needs are, [...]

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Judging by the amount of interest in emotionally unavailable men, it is clear that most women have had some experience of being with a guy that blows hot and cold. This inconsistent behaviour means that as long as you’re with him you are thrown into a cycle of inconsistentency as you deal with the drama, [...]

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