One of the things I learned about dating is that in order to survive, you need to be able to smell the BS coming from a mile away otherwise assclowns a plenty will suck up your time, reduce your self-esteem, and end up making you believe that dating is for suckers. One of the classic […]

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Join the forum discussion on this postYesterday, in the first of my three part series about what I’ve learned about being the Other Woman (OW), I talked about how you’re an escape from reality, that all the cheating guys are liars, that the situation is far from being unique, that these guys are manipulators, […]

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On Thursday, Astelle wanted to know why her emotionally unavailable man (Mr Unavailable) kept returning her contact when he wasn’t interested. In a follow up to the advice I gave her, Astelle has some more questions
1. Is it Astelle he doesn’t want or he doesn’t want any woman?
He doesn’t want any woman. Emotionally unavailable men […]

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“I’ve been reading your blog and I think I was just in a yo-yo relationship with an emotionally unavailable man.We have been on and off for the past 2 1/2 years - he broke up with me twice (once because he didn’t feel like he could give me enough and the second time, he didn’t […]

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“I’m a 35 year-old journalist from Brazil and I’ve been dating a 22 year-old girl for three years now (she was 18 when we met). To make a long story short: after six months of dating, she stopped having sex with me. She says she hates her body (she is a little bit overweight, but […]

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Over on AskMen they are discussing Why Women Cheat and naturally I have my own take on it.
For a start, harsh as this may sound to men, it takes a LOT for a woman to cheat. Much like how most women have more of an emotional journey about the act of sex, it’s quite a […]

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Relationships are about give and take. I don’t expect anyone to stand there taking scores because this in itself creates a negative atmosphere for a relationship, however, in healthy relationships there is an overall healthy balance of give and take without having to kill yourselves getting that balance and there is certainly no need for […]

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I recently wrote in my column about the author Josephine Cox, esteemed peddler of women’s fiction pondering whether her and similar authors “have unwittingly failed a whole generation of women by seducing them with false ideals of love and romance…”. The biggest topics on this blog are anything connected to emotionally unavailable men and being […]

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Judging by the amount of interest in emotionally unavailable men, it is clear that most women have had some experience of being with a guy that blows hot and cold. This inconsistent behaviour means that as long as you’re with him you are thrown into a cycle of inconsistentency as you deal with the drama, […]

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I have now been with my boyfriend over a year. We live together in Japan and are both from Europe. We have managed to get over the interracial issues that we faced when we initially realised that we were attracted to each other and wanted to be together but now its a whole other issue. […]

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