I recently wrote in my column about the author Josephine Cox, esteemed peddler of women’s fiction pondering whether her and similar authors “have unwittingly failed a whole generation of women by seducing them with false ideals of love and romance…”. The biggest topics on this blog are anything connected to emotionally unavailable men and being [...]

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Say it without pressure. Don’t do it because you think you have to; say it because you want to. Don’t say it because someone says it to you. Despite common belief, just because the three words get uttered doesn’t mean that you always have to hear the three words back.
Don’t say it because you want [...]

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Listen don’t just talk
People think that you need to talk a lot for good communication but there needs to be a balance between talking and listening. If you’re doing most of the talking, something’s not right.
Be careful of hearing and not listening
Some of us hear what we want to hear or are to busy formulating [...]

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Exes
They’re called an ex because they’re in The Past and every damn time either of you bring them up puts them in your present. In order for relationships to prosper, both parties need to be over their ex partners with closure, and you also both need to get over each other’s exes. It’s a redundant [...]

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Three little words can make a relationship if it’s what you want to hear, or they can break a relationship if the words aren’t forthcoming or the recipient gets scared on hearing them. Saying ‘I Love You’ takes a massive leap of faith, but what if you’re going to say it first, or already have?
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I’m going to say something that may be a little revelatory for those amongst us that suffer with insecurity about your partner’s past – People don’t land on earth just in time for you to receive them for your relationship with no past in tow. Everybody has past and it’s called a past for a [...]

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If you’re out tonight with your man and get the sense that he’s grimacing over your Valentine’s day ‘celebration’, it’s probably because he feels pressured from the high expectations that he feels he is getting from you, or at least that’s what you could believe if you pay attention to a recent independent survey that [...]

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My experiences of men when arguing is that most of the argument, and sometimes all of it, is driven by the need for the man to believe he is right, even when he is in the wrong. This makes arguing with men exhausting and frustrating because the women on the end of it KNOW that [...]

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1. Don’t ask questions if you’re not prepared to accept the honest answer. Honesty is not about hearing what you want to hear.
2. Don’t beat them up for being honest about a past that you weren’t a part of. Laughing and joking along about their past and then using it against them later down the [...]

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I have been living with my boyfriend of two years since January 2006. He shares custody of his children who live with him part time. I have arranged to pay him rent of $1500 per month, which I thought was fair, but he recently had a gardener move into the one bedroom (vacant) apt. on [...]

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