This week I’m interrupting my self-absorbed probe into my own commitment-phobic mind because I need someone to tell me why. Why do we not feel the need to hold people responsible for their bad behavior on the internet?
Last week there was an incident in the blogosphere, and I’m having a tough time digesting some [...]

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One of the subconscious messages that I’ve carried through life is that if I’m not perfect, I’m not lovable or likable. My gut reaction is to blame my mother. Although she’s probably largely responsible, other factors also contribute. Besides, playing the blame game doesn’t change anything anyway.
That said, I do believe that [...]

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As promised, over the next few weeks I’ll be exploring my commitment-phobe issues. Last week I listed the top four issues which contribute to my Miss Unavailable status.
They were:
• If I’m not perfect I am not lovable.
• The desire to be in a relationship is a sign of [...]

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As promised, over the next few weeks I’ll be exploring my commitment-phobe issues. Last week I listed the top four issues which contribute to my Miss Unavailable status. They were:
• If I’m not perfect I am not lovable.
• The desire to be in a relationship is a sign of weakness.
• If I don’t accomplish everything [...]

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I’ve been officially single since January 2002. That’s four years and seven months. In that entire span of time, I’ve wanted nothing to do with any kind of relationship. To that end, for a significant portion of that time, I adopted dating as a sport. Trying to fit in as many [...]

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For years I’ve hypothesized that one of the main reasons that male/female relationships are so difficult is not because men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but because men are emotionally crippled. I haven’t blamed men. I’ve blamed society. There is this macho-male ideal and boys have to be brought up to be [...]

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I’ve spent the last five days visiting my parents. It had been a while since I’d visited. Boycotting visits was my way of protesting against their manner of disapproval of my lifestyle as a happily thirty-something single urban professional woman. Luckily the family crisis has passed due to the fact that I’ve realised that their [...]

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Girls, there’s a little secret that some of your boyfriends/husbands are hiding. They’re gay. No matter what country you live in, most societies still ostracize anyone who is not strictly heterosexual. This leads to some men making the unfortunate decision to try to do what society wants by getting married to women [...]

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Something that I’ll never understand is why women don’t support each other more. Women are all on the same team, right? I could site 500 different examples of women tearing each other down and competing with each other instead of working together, but, as would be expected of me, I’m going to concentrate on how [...]

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There is a 25 year old woman (Let’s call her “C”) living somewhere in the Midwest who is terribly upset because she’s being harassed, threatened and verbally abused on a regular basis. Not to mention the fact that she’s wasting away to almost nothing, and cries every month when she discovers that she’s not yet [...]

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