In 1996, I fell in love with a man and married one year later. I knew with all my heart that this was the person for me. He had all the qualities that I was looking for and then some. I thought it was a dream but what the next 8 years brought me, was [...]

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Finally, how Aaron, the frat boy, taught me what sex is all about. (And, no, it’s not some squishy lovey dovey BS.)
This man and I had chemistry. The kind of chemistry that a person only ever finds with a few people. In order to have mind-blowing sex, the kind I’ve been talking about, you’ve got [...]

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Pochahantas’ journey continues in trying to shake her Mr Unavailable, but it seems that even though she took two steps forward, she’s taken twenty steps back. It’s safe to say that a hardcore detox is neccessary before the self destruct button gets hit….
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J warned me that this would happen.
I’ve spent the last three nights in [...]

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I get asked quite a lot about what I think are indicators that a guy may be cheating and whilst it was tempting to do a definitive list, I felt that a real life tale would do a far better job.
Kelly went out with Joel for seven years yet she had very rarely stayed at [...]

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Pocahantas continues on her quest to ditch Mr. Unavailable and finds herself going several steps too far down memory lane on her birthday but ‘discovering’ the truth about her relationship with the consumate Mr Unavailable and having to face the very unpleasant reality. Her Mr Unavailable proves that he really is a dickhead and it [...]

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The first time I saw “When Harry Met Sally,” I was 17. I hated it. The next time I saw it I was 25. I loved it. It made so much more sense to me after I’d dated a bit. One scene in particular is so important, so spot-on, so relevant, that I think everyone [...]

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We catch up again with Pochantas who is going through the excruciating phase of missing someone so bad you want them back but knowing that everything is wrong. Her Mr Unavailable is on her case, bombarding her with calls, messages and even a request for a visit. Pochantas feels so lonely in NYC right now. [...]

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I grew up in a seriously sexually repressed household. Definitely my mother and possibly my father were virgins until they got married. Either way, neither of them had much sexual experience, and whatever they had learned about it was stuff off the street. They both grew up in Catholic households, but my father grew up [...]

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Pocahantas has settled in after leaving behind her Mr Unavailable and moving to NYC to start a new life. This week sees Pocahantas being surprised at how much she has settled into life in New York, but also trying to reconcile herself with missing him and trying to understand why her culture, or lack of [...]

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To recap from last week, girls are taught from a young age that they’re not supposed to give in to sexual desires. They’re not supposed to “give it up” to boys nor are they supposed to explore their sexuality through masturbation.
There is a definite double standard regarding sexuality. Certainly, most societies and religions officially tout [...]

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