Hence when they don’t put out or hound you for sex, we tend to feel a tad confused and wonder what is wrong with us. But…and it kills me to say it….not every guy wants to shag your brains out all the time…. If by some sheer chance his behaviour is a result of avoiding sex, this situation isn’t going to resolve itself and if he wants to be in this relationship and make you feel loved, cherished, and valued, he needs to be in it and he needs to be making every effort to positively improve your relationship and if that means going to a sex counsellor, so be it.

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The Justifying Zone is that slippery slope that a lot of women find themselves in, especially after they have sexual contact with a guy. Many of us feel that we need to justify our emotional and sexual investment and this justification is effectively attempting to close the door after the horse has bolted.
The Justifying Zone [...]

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I’m 35 and have not had a sexual relationship for 6 years. Prior to that I had only had a few sexual partners, though one in my early twenties had been my partner of 3 years. In my mid twenties I explored my sexuality and had relationships with women. Since my late twenties [...]

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Pressuring means different things to different people – trust me, it isn’t just making the request once – But how do you manage the issue of backdoor entry when you don’t want to do it?
Anal sex reminds me of threesomes in that both acts get thrown on the menu on the off chance that someone [...]

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There seems to be a lot of focus on women not being in the mood for sex these days. Everything from television sitcoms, magazine articles, talk shows, and books deal with low sex drive in women. But what if the problem is the man? Women are taught at an early age that men are sex [...]

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Don’t do it on work email! Some companies have very strict email policies but you may also get the content put through a filter which could be very embarrassing if it gets flagged up.

Only send these emails to a trusted lover. Trust me when I say that if you are sending these types of emails [...]

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I know a lot of people that have sex whilst dating and whilst it’s different strokes for different folks, the majority of what I hear from people who do this is that it complicates things and sometimes ruins it. If it’s worked for you, great, don’t bother to read this, but if you think that [...]

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If you’re not getting yours then you’re not doing it right.
This is all about you and this is the type of sex where you don’t need to worry about who come’s first or his wants. You’re not developing a relationship here – you are supposed to be getting laid good and proper. Obviously don’t go [...]

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No foreplay, teenage foreplay routines, repeated tries for anal sex, licking us like a cat licks milk, and expecting us to ‘taste’ ourselves are just some of the things that annoy women in the bedroom.
No glove, no love.
It is beyond irritating when you’ve made it clear to a guy that there is no room [...]

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A while back, New York Moment’s contributed a great column on How to tell if your boyfriend is gay. A comment has been posted which took my breath away and I have posted the response here:
I have been dating a man for about four years, 40’s who is very sensitive gentle and caring [...]

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