In the past I’ve had a lot of emails from women where they tell me the most awful things about their relationship with a guy and they finish it off by saying how they love him and the sex is amazing and yada, yada, and it’s what I’ve previously referred to as Great Dysfunctional Sex - sex powered by lots of negativity normally created by drama and insecurity…. Bad relationships that are full of drama, emotional unavailability and anything else that happens to be counter productive to a successful relationship are devaluing, degrading, and have a nasty habit of reducing our self-esteem so that we end up feeling like non-entities and even more dependent on the poor relationship because how we perceive ourselves becomes intrinsically tied to how successful or unsuccessful our relationships are.

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A few days ago I wrote about The Justifying Zone, that slippery slope that women can find themselves on when they stick with a guy so that they can justify their emotional or sexual investment, even if they recognise that that the relationship is doomed. A couple of male commenters raised the point that sometimes [...]

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The Justifying Zone is that slippery slope that a lot of women find themselves in, especially after they have sexual contact with a guy. Many of us feel that we need to justify our emotional and sexual investment and this justification is effectively attempting to close the door after the horse has bolted.
The Justifying Zone [...]

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Over at Advice from a Single Dating Expert, Evan tackles the age-old issue of when it’s the right time to have sex, and surmises this grey area very well.
“As a woman, your job is not to come up with an arbitrary number of dates, like the U.S. coming up with a pull out date for [...]

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A new study by The University of Texas School of Public Health suggests that women who meet with men that they met online are a lot friskier for bare-back sex… Whilst the study found that women are extra cautious about meeting face-to-face with men from dating sites, it seems that once they have met [...]

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“It’s hard to have casual sex without getting emotionally involved,”
Normally I would attribute these words to a woman, but on this occasion, it is to Ben, someone who claims to be amongst a growing number of men who just aren’t into booty calls. Say what?
“He’s Just Not That Into It” in Details Magazine examines this [...]

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A name like Seduction Central conjures up a variety of images so I was pleasantly surprised to discover that it wasn’t full of rubber and whips! Instead it’s a blog about the astrology of love, sex and relationships written by Jeffrey Kishner, a licensed psychotherapist and practising astrologer based in New York City.
I very rarely [...]

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Sex is a contentious issue. People measure all sorts of things by how little or how much sex they are having and everyone puts different levels of thoughts into sex. Many people can have sex without giving it and the potential consequences a second thought. Many others spend a lot of time agonising over the [...]

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My thoughts on first date sex are: Unless you want to have just the one date, I would avoid getting the knickers down on the first date. My only exception and even then I would be cautionary is if you knew the person very well. And I know how people love to look for loopholes, [...]

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Recently almost 250 people attended a two-day conference titled “Contraception Is Not The Answer” in Rosemont, Ill., hosted by the Pro-Life Action League, the Chicago Tribune reports. My first thought as I skimmed this article was…Whaaaatttt???
Some attendees at the conference planned to say that contraception promotes “sexual promiscuity,” leads to a decrease in birth rates, [...]

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