Don’t Opt For Social Proof Over Your Own Assessment of Someone

Don’t Opt For Social Proof Over Your Own Assessment of Someone

I recently chatted with Lindsey who feels caught between a rock and a hard place: she wants to break away from the person who has hurt her but she feels that No Contact would be “too harsh” because he’s her “best friend”-cue my raised...

The Reset Button and Just Move On and Fuggedaboudit

There are certain people in our lives who if we haven’t been able to act as if we’re no longer bothered by something, whether it relates to them or not, they encourage us to “move on”, which is often subtext for ‘fuggedaboudit’. Of course...

Um, *Why* Are You Telling Me This? [When Exes & ‘Friends’ Tell You Stuff You *Really* Don’t Need To Know]

Have you ever received a call or message from someone that leaves you thinking, Why the hell would they tell me that? Are they deliberating trying to mess with my head or ensure that they plunge me back into a misery that they know that I’ve done my damnedest to move...
If they lie to themselves, why are they going to be honest with us?

If they lie to themselves, why are they going to be honest with us?

When you really take the time to get to know you, you will find that as a result of paying attention to your feelings, opinions, needs, expectations and desires, you are not only armed with a great deal of self-knowledge and self-awareness but you have so much more...
Super Late: How we treat time says a lot about how much we respect other people’s time

Super Late: How we treat time says a lot about how much we respect other people’s time

If you’ve ever stood (or sat) around waiting for somebody who is late, you will understand how frustrating and downright awkward this can be, especially when they either don’t warn you that they’re going to be late or they have a habit of being late on the regular....

Admit The Cover-Up & Stop Overcompensating

Over the years of writing BR, I’ve emphasised how relationships are 100:100. We have to own our own and let others own theirs. We have to show up and be our true selves rather than show up on the basis that we are half of a person and that we’ll do a bit...