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The No Contact Rule ecourse
Course availability: ASAP Access
The No Contact Rule ecourse is a comprehensive 12-week program designed to coach you through the process of detaching and distancing yourself from an unhealthy person and situation. Focusing on helping you to understand the process in itself, uncovering the habits and beliefs that have prevented you from being able to let go or move forward, and also supporting you with the healing and rebuilding work that comes with grief and loss, the program can help you to transform what may be a very painful situation into the chance know you better and come out of this with your self-esteem in tow.
If you’ve lost you in the process of trying to hold on to someone, trying to make them change their mind, or trying to prove your worth, or have even become involved in what’s turned into a battle for power, it’s vital that you stop engaging.
Of course if it were as simple as ‘just’ going No Contact (NC), which is where you take time out and limit or cut off contact (basically you stop engaging), so that you have a chance to grieve the loss and take care of you, you wouldn’t be either wrestling with the possibility of making the decision or wrestling with sticking to it. Often when we’re in a situation that necessitates NC, we second-guess our experience and struggle with self-doubt due to unhealthy beliefs. Experiencing a loss and/or a knock-back can really hit you, regardless of how much self-esteem you had prior to it happening. On a logical level it may make sense to do NC but you are likely confused by your feelings, which often end up being treated as facts or as indicators of the existence of other facts.
Right now, you may feel as if what you’re experiencing at this moment is a permanent statement of your future, and you may fear that you have no options – help is at hand. It doesn’t have to be like this. You can take command of you and your life but first, you need to go No Contact.
Filled with content which not only focuses on increasing your confidence to start and remain No Contact, and giving you tools to help you gain insight and understanding of your own situation, it also tackles the practicalities of your decision as well as the habits of thinking and behaviour that currently keep you stuck in a disappointment cycle.
Think breakup recovery and personal development.
The No Contact Rule ecourse is comprised of four modules that contain a mix of video, classes to read, audio, worksheets ‘self sheets’, plus ebook and workbook resources.
Module 1 (week 1) Understanding No Contact
Module 2 (week 2) Understanding Your Situation
Module 3 (week 3) Coming To Terms With Your Decision, Loss & Grief
Module 4 (week 4) Rebuilding Your Life
For the first four weeks, you will gain access to a new module every seven days, which will then be available for the rest of your access period.
Weeks 5-12 switch to emails to help you with implementation of NC as well as taking care of you.
You have access to the program for twelve months and it’s contained within a members-only site (Baggage Reclaim School) plus there’s also a private Facebook group (a special one has also been created for students doing No Contact), which is about as close as I will ever get to having a forum. Baggage Reclaim School is a wonderful, collaborative, inspiring, and supportive atmosphere that many students have found invaluable. During ‘term time’, I also run weekly Question Time sessions to deal with pressing questions related to the curriculum and any challenges that are being dealt with ‘on the ground’.
Like all Baggage Reclaim School courses, The No Contact Rule curriculum has improving your wellbeing by increasing self-compassion and self-awareness at its foundation, it’s just that the process by which you’re doing so is via learning how to let go of (or distance you from) a person and situation that detracts from you.
Course Type: Access ASAP
Your purchase includes:
- 12 months access to the course material including any updates during that period.
- Optional access to the private BR School’s secret Facebook group for the length of your membership access as well as optional access to the NC group’s closed Facebook group.
- A print and digital copy (PDF) of my book, The No Contact Rule.
- No Contact magnets (28″ – pictured right)) and NC and breakup tip postcards.
*If you already have the book, it can be substituted for another.
To implement (and then maintain) No Contact so that you can navigate you successfully out of an unhealthy situation and move forward.
To understand No Contact as an empowering and healthy process: what is it, what’s involved, how the principles of what you’re doing equate to not continuing to engage in unhealthy dynamics, the benefits of NC, and tools and strategies for focusing on and improving your wellbeing.
By the end of this course, you should be able to:
Apply No Contact habits to your situation in a healthier way.
Understand what actually happened as opposed to the story you’ve been telling you that was crushing your self-esteem.
Have a plan for dealing with your NC situation and be in the process of implementing it.
Identify and differentiate between healthy and unhealthy behaviour and thinking, including recognising code amber and red behaviour.
Make some initial steps to self-soothing you out of difficult feelings and going through the grieving process, including being able to talk you ‘off the ledge’ when tempted to fall off the wagon.
Identify the pattern of an unhealthy dynamic; understand cues, triggers, and responses understanding to your own behaviour as well as to others or a dynamic.
Approach you and the effect of this situation in a more self-compassionate manner; reduce judgement of you, change the meaning that you’ve assigned to it and you.
Use the tools provided, to home in on regrets, fear, doubt and unhealthy beliefs, and get to a more balanced perspective.
Have identified ways and means in which you can improve the way that you feel about you and rebuild your life.
Be more conscious, aware, and present – less reactive and impulsive about this person and situation.
The No Contact Rule, like all Baggage Reclaim School courses, is aimed at people who really want to break free of an unhealthy cycle but don’t know how. BR students tend to be action-orientated or want to learn how to be. They’re at that point where they’re willing to reflect, willing to learn, and willing to get uncomfortable… but in a good way. It’s the discomfort that comes from change. BR students come from all walks of life and are at different stages in their personal development.
You may want the structure and resources that the course provides, to help you stick to the decision. You will find this course particularly useful if you’ve gotten lost in the detail of your situation and have lost sight of the bigger picture, or you have a pattern of struggling to let go and are struggling with feelings of blame, shame, rejection, and even obsessing. If you have unresolved wounds and this situation has ‘triggered’ you, this is the place for you.
The tools provided are not available outside of the course and are specifically designed to help you to reflect, dig deep, shift perspective, and do healing work – this will suit you if you’re really looking to shift gears and be responsible and accountable for your happiness and not letting fear win. If you’ve spent a lot of your time focusing on all sorts of detail but want to really know what’s been going down, you’ll get clear on this on The No Contact Rule. The course will also appeal if you enjoy the comfort and solidarity of being with people who really have a sense of what you are going through
Is there anyone that The No Contact Rule / Baggage Reclaim School isn’t suitable for?
Like anything, The No Contact Rule ecourse/BR School isn’t going to suit ‘everyone’ and it’s not supposed to. If you think I talk a load of guff here on Baggage Reclaim, it’s definitely not for you, or if you’re someone who is decidedly skeptical and resistant to changing your position or perspective, you’re not ready, although may be one day.
Is it just 12-weeks access?
Your course fee covers you for 12 months access (unless you’ve purchased lifetime access) including any updates to your course during that time.
Can I take the course again during this time?
Once you’ve completed the first four weeks, the content is there for you to view whenever you want. You can request to be re-added as if you’re a new student so that you get the emails all over again.
Is the course the same as the book?
No. You do get a copy of my book, The No Contact Rule, free with your purchase. The course is based on the tools and materials I use to coach people through NC situations and to help them make sense of the chain of events and any pattern that needs to be dealt with.
Is detailed personal feedback included in my course fee, like on Build Your Self-Esteem?
No, otherwise it would have to be priced much higher.
Can I pay for detailed personal feedback on my situation, like a consultation?
You can arrange this after registration.
What does ASAP Access mean?
Once your registration is complete, you will be able to access your course content immediately, as opposed to Build Your Self-Esteem which runs on specific course dates.
What happens after I purchase?
You will be directed to a registration page where you set up your username and password. You will then be able to log in to your course.
Can I see all content immediately?
No. So as not to overwhelm, the first four modules are released one per week, with the first being available to view immediately. Every 7 days, so literally every 168 hours from when you set up your username and password, the next module becomes available. After the first four weeks, the next eight weeks consist of bitesize support emails to point you to course material, help you with implementation and provide you with support.
Will I be notified when content is available?
Yes you will. It’s not a nagging email – just a notification that contains an overview of the module release. You should, for instance, receive an email about module two, on the eighth day of the course.
Are there live aspects to the course?
Occasionally I run ‘live classes’ where you can dial in to a webinar (online seminar) and listen in / watch, but at least 95% of the course is done on your own time. Even if there is something live, you can always listen to the recording.
Do you accept payments in all currencies? Yes, it should do it automatically at the checkout but do advise if you experience any difficulties.
Do you need to have a Paypal account in order to pay? No, you can pay via card or via Paypal ID. Your card details are not disclosed to Baggage Reclaim during the order process nor are they stored.
Do you do gift certificates? If you would like to give a course as a gift (very nice of you!), please make a note on the order and we will liaise with you to do a transfer. If in doubt, drop an email to team AT baggagereclaimschool.com after making your purchase and let us know who the recipient is.
I want to do more than one course – can you do a discount for me? Yes. Please note though that you can only book onto another course, if that course is in session.
Do I need to use my full name? On the order yes, but when the course opens, you can use whatever username you like. You have full control over what displays.
When will I receive login information? You create your own username and password, which you will be given the option to create when your purchase completes and you’re redirected to the registration page for the course.
Does this require a lot of time? You can put in as much or as little as you like. It’s a course, but it’s not as if you’re getting a degree. Obviously you get out what you put in.
I’m broke but I really want to do the course. If you would like to go on the waiting list for a scholarship, please email team AT baggagereclaimschool.com and you will be notified when there’s an opening to apply. If you are a student or need financial assistance but are willing to pay, please get in touch on the same address.
What do I need in order to do the course? As long as you have internet and access to email, wherever you are in the world, you can take part. Oh and bring a strong desire to do things differently. And a notebook or trusty Post-It notes, for scribbles and ‘Punchbulb Moments’ – lightbulb moments that punch you in the head. Post-Its are also great for working out patterns.
How does online learning work?
Baggage Reclaim School is a private site (separate to baggagereclaim.com), which has a mix of learning content – written, audio, video, worksheets ‘selfsheets’, workbooks, ebooks etc. Certain courses involve an element of feedback from your instructor, Natalie but the courses are mostly self-paced and requiring you to use the process to reflect and learn to listen to you. All you need to access the course material is a decent internet connection and an up-to-date browser like Firefox, Safari or Google Chrome.
Is there a set time when I need to sign in?
Nope. This is self-paced so show up whenever you like and read as much or as little as you like. This isn’t a live course because students are from all over the globe and of course have their own lives and schedules. Content is dripped out week by week so as not to overwhelm. For courses with a specified start date, Monday is the day when new content is added, whereas ASAP Access courses update every 7 days from when you registered. Access when it’s convenient to you. The only time there is ever a set time is if you want to attend a ‘live class’ and these account for less than 5% of the course and are an ‘extra’ that you’re not obliged to attend. They’re also recorded, so again, access at a time that is convenient to you. Each week, you will receive an email with an overview of the material that’s just been added.
How do I access my course material?
You will receive an email with your course link, which once you click on it, you will be prompted to log in.
How do I interact with Natalie and fellow students?
The comments are open on most posts and normally from week 2-3 of each course there are topic focused clinics to facilitate discussion around a topic and take a collaborative approach to problem solving and support. There is a private and secret Facebook group (no one outside of the group can see what you post or even that you’re a member) . There are also live classes plus there is the opportunity to get feedback from Natalie on homework and feedback on backstorys (if applicable) on courses. During ‘term time’, I hold Question Time sessions – web meets where students can use their webcam/phone to call in. All web meets are recorded.
Will I be ‘graded’?
Erm, no. This is a learning environment but there’s no exams. This is about the journey not the destination.
Can you tell me more about what I can expect to find when I log in?
You should arrive at your course page. During your course you can watch videos, read course materials, view slide shows, listen to audio, download workbooks, worksheets and ebooks. You will be pointed to housekeeping tasks, you can check out any available bonus material, and if your course has started, you will be able to access that week’s module.
How do I get technical help?
There are guidelines for reporting technical issues over at Baggage Reclaim School – if you use these, issues are normally resolved in seconds and minutes. Information on how to do this is on the BR School site.
Will there be more courses?
How often are courses offered?
The flagship courses will run 3-5 times a year. There’s also a library launching in Spring 2014 with mini courses and access to a variety of material with new content uploaded each week and throughout the year.
Do I need special software to do this course?
No. What you do need is an up to date internet browser like Safari, Google Chrome or Firefox and a decent internet connection, especially if you’re watching videos or dialling in to a live class. Courses are compatible with PCs and Macs and can also be ready on most mobile devices. Most material is downloadable so you will need a PDF reader (one comes with your computer) like Preview or Adobe Acrobat and if you want to be able to type into files then you will need Pages/Word.
How long do I have access for?
You have 12 months access unless you are a lifetime access member.
Note if you are already on a course, please get in touch with us via team AT baggagereclaimschool.com as you are entitled to a student discount.