Comments on: Dating Etiquette & Gender Roles

By: tallglassofvino

tallglassofvino — Sat, 01 Jul 2006 06:20:28 +0000

I just don’t understand all the fuss:

W: Hey, want to get a drink after work?
M: Um, yeah, sure – why not?
**WOMAN SUCCESSFULLY ASKING MAN OUT**

W: Hey, want to get a drink after work?
M: Um, no, I’m married/taken/gay/neanderthalic.
**WOMAN UNSUCCESSFULLY ASKING MAN OUT**

Both scenarios pass within a few seconds, and neither one leaves a scar.

As for picking up the tab, the asker’s the payer, in my book, which, in starting out with a meek, mild after work drink, still leaves a lot of room for some guy to hoist his cajones and decide to spring for dinner, if things are going well.

win/win.

talk amongst yourselves.

By: just-me-jen

just-me-jen — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 10:40:25 +0000

I’m with Amused! Girls, you want to ask, go for it!
Guys, get used to it, and enjoy being the “hunted” for a change. I figure if a guy is scared away by a girl calling him or asking him out, Good Riddance!

By: Amused

Amused — Wed, 28 Jun 2006 23:09:09 +0000

The main problem is our society puts far too much emphasis on being in a romantic relationship, and as a consequence, people date and marry inappropriate partners, while following a bunch of silly, antiquated rules and expectations. That’s why there’s so much confusion and a 50% divorce rate.

In the long run, though, what fricking difference does it make who asks who out? One asks, the other accepts or refuses. The result is the same, either way.

By: morbid misanthrope

morbid misanthrope — Wed, 28 Jun 2006 20:58:44 +0000

Before I would imagine. I would prefer her reaction be to hit me right back–the sexes are equal, you see.

By: New York Moments

New York Moments — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 20:52:07 +0000

Hey MM And will you be delivering this punch before or after she rips off your genetalia?

By: morbid misanthrope

morbid misanthrope — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 20:49:17 +0000

To prove how equal I think women are to men, I’m going to punch the first woman I see today right in the mouth. I know, I know; I’m such a feminist.

By: New York Moments

New York Moments — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 15:34:29 +0000

Hey Suckey,

I think the main point is about choice. Everyone is different, yes. But I believe we should all have the right to the same choices. I can’t stand when people say that women or men should do “X” because of their gender.

If being the breadwinner at home makes you happy, and your wife is happy with it, then good for you. I, on the other hand, am not looking for that kind of arrangement. But you have your choice, your wife has hers, and I have mine. As long as everyone is free to do what feels good and they allow everyone else to be free to do what feels good, then we’re all happy.

By: Stuckey

Stuckey — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 15:27:57 +0000

Speaking as a straight man… I feel that women are equal to men in many respects. I also believe that there are fundamental differences that no amount of legislation/psychological empowerment can “correct,” but I won’t get into those.

Speaking as a Southern man, I’ve been raised to hold doors for women, pay for them when we go out, and be the “bread-winner” for my family unit. I realize, and accept, that a woman is capable of holding her own door, paying her own way, and making just as much as I do in the workplace. But it doesn’t feel “natural.” It’s just not the way I was raised.

So does that make me a caveman? Does wanting a wife who will stay home and cook and raise the children mean I’m some relic from a prehistoric era? I don’t feel outdated. And I sure as hell respect any woman who is willing to take that role.

By: New York Moments

New York Moments — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 14:23:33 +0000

Badgerbob,

What you need is a good, long, spanking!

By: badgerbob

badgerbob — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 13:25:24 +0000

….Are women so desperate to be in relationships that they are willing to continue to be dis-empowered? No, you canâ€™t call a man. (TRUE, UNLESSS IT IS FOR A HOOK-UP)

No, you canâ€™t ask a man out. You might scare him away. (TRUE. AN AGRESSIVE WOMEN MAKE A NORMAL GUY NERVOUS, UNLESS SHE IS IN HIS BED) )

No, you canâ€™t pay on a date. (FALSE, TREATS ARE JUST FINE, AND PAYING FOR THE CAB, BACK TO YOUR PLACE, TO GET IT ON, IS JUST FINE, ALSO.)

No, you canâ€™t be opinionated.(FALSE, BECAUSE WE HAVE THE ABILITY TO TUNE YOU OUT, WHILE PRETENDING TO BE LISTENING INTENTLY.)

No, you canâ€™t make more than him. (FALSE, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T MENTION IT TO OFTEN, AND PAY FOR US TO GO, ON OCCASIONAL, HUNTING AND GATHERING TRIPS.

By: badgerbob

badgerbob — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 13:12:05 +0000

… And I know for a fact there are men out there who feel that women are their equals and it makes no difference to them who makes the first move…
I’ll bet that these men, you speak of ,are gay.