Dating in a Metropolitan Area Compared To Elsewhere
September 25, 2005 by NML
New York, London, Chicago. Life here, like everything else, seems to speed up a few notches, and for most of us singles this also includes dating.
Now forget for a moment that in any large city you can find speed dating on any given night of the week, or that a one night stand is just about as easy to find as a frapuccino from your local Starbucks. And forget everything other, than that life in these metropolitan centres speeds along a lot faster then anywhere else and with it so does - dating.
I recently reflected on my own dating patterns and realized something that should have for the most part been very obvious all along. With life being sped up, dating has been propelled into a whole new level of frequency. Where once I would see someone for three weeks and figure out it would not work, here in this large metropolitan area, I can see someone in three dates, be sick of them by the end of the second one, and go on the third just because there’s nothing good on the tube that evening. And if by chance I get lucky and meet someone who I date for an extended period of time, this being 4-8 months, hell, we might as well get married!
So in light of this new epiphany, I’ve composed the following – Dating in a Metropolitan Area as it compares to anywhere else.
Metropolitan / Anywhere else
2 dates in NY = 3 weeks elsewhere
2 weeks in NY = 1.5 months elsewhere
1 month in NY = 3 months elsewhere – you’re officially going out
3 months in NY = 1 year elsewhere, you’re established
6 months in NY = 3-7 year relationship elsewhere
1 year in NY = You’re officially married elsewhere
2-5 year relationship in NY = Old married couple elsewhere
5+ years in NY, well that’s just unheard of…
The good side in all this is that you as the serial dater, come to really understand what you want out of a partner, the bad… well becoming jaded, too picky and the increased chance of scoring that burning feeling in one’s loins, a.k.a Chlamydia.
Disclaimer: Los Angeles doesn’t count in this study - because everyone in L.A. is perpetually 17 years old.
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what about seattle? which I consider a “small town” in the metropolitian sense. . . i mean there isn’t speed dating every night of the week.
whatever, i think it is a mix of : metropolitian ares, age, social development and biology that makes committed relationships way out of date.