Instead of doing what I have done in the past, which would be acting equally as flirtatious yet cagy, or demanding a confrontation or “talk” about what was going on, I have been extremely mellow. I have responded to his emails in a friendly manner, but have not been saying things that beg a reaction or escalation of drama. I have not tried to talk to him about “what happened” – there is no need. I am not interested in getting back together.

Anyway – his responses to my “level, healthy and normal” responses to his minor overtures – has been NOTHING. It isn’t exciting enough for him. Or I guess, maybe it’s just to real, or too straight or normal.

In any event, he’s not for me. It has felt a little weird to not have the “altercation” – but – I’m pretty sure that – there won’t be one this time – nor any further “ho0okups” with this EUM.

Funny, yesterday I just happened to come across some old emails sent to my sister, complaining and whinging and moaning about the state of my relationship with my ex bf. Wow.
Was that ever a reality check for me.
It brought back all those crazy feelings, all the uncertainity, and also made me remember what he would say to me to ‘pacify’ (cause ‘pacify’/'status quo’ is their m.o. isn’t it)…

I am going to keep those emails. And I suggest anyone else do the same with any concrete evidence of freakouts that they have.
It is a great arse kick and a great way to remind yourself ‘wow, now that wasn’t worth making MYSELF feel like that now was it?’ …
Sometimes when we get all riled up it’s hard to think rationally, so having some kind of ‘cool down’ reminder might help…although it did make me cry a bit, it’s a good thing in the end.

I think you mean “thinking that he is Mr Wonderful who’s just been living in the moment and can’t help the fact that women fall for him, when in actual fact…”

THAT makes more sense. xx