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By: Drama Seekers: It’s time to get off the relationship crack

Drama Seekers: It’s time to get off the relationship crack — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 09:00:35 +0000

[...] Lot’s of women believe that drama is part and parcel of relationships. Some are purposeful Drama Seekers, actively pursuing men that cater to the high adrenaline factor, but there are a hell of a lot of women out there that are ‘Accidental’ Drama Seekers. [...]

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 07:53:17 +0000

Nat,
Girl I see where you are coming from totally! you know some girls love the ups and downs of being in a relationship.

When they donâ€™t have drama they go about trying to create situations to get it.

I donâ€™t think that they do it intentionally, but its part of what creates that attraction for them.

I think its good to recognize that life has enough ups and downs as it is. And its best to have your partner there supporting you when life challenges you .. rather than HIM being the one and only challenge

Hope that made sense =)

Ohh and I fixed my comment prob Nat .. thanks =)

HAF

http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com

By: vikkkiT

vikkkiT — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 11:07:56 +0000

I agree with Mims about the physical addiction – those chemicals are for real. Another aspect is that going from crisis to crisis gives the woman a feeling of importance, about herself and the relationship. If things run smoothly, she misses it – it’s like she has no proof that she matters. Maybe she doesn’t get that from anything else. Also, as time goes on, she develops the skills to handle the drama but doesn’t develop skills for normal day-to-day living with someone. After a few years, she is seriously at a disadvantage in normal relationships and probably feels more confident dealing with the drama. The answer – stop focussing on what he does and start thinking about what you do. Ask yourself what you have missed out on by giving priority to the drama – work, friendship, travel – and start filling your life with those things instead. Be honest – it hurts but it’s the only way you will change. And realize, it won’t happen in a day – just like any addiction, you have to keep working on it.

By: FinallyOverIt

FinallyOverIt — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:29:49 +0000

Drama is not fun! I have a friend who is involved with a man who has tons of drama in his life–recently divorced–problems with his kids and ex-wife–basically, a constant day-in-and-day-out drama-fest. And, sadly, my friend has gotten sucked up into this (of course, that was her choice) and her Drama King leaves her no time for other things in her life–like her friends. I believe people thrive on drama for the “high”, but also for another reason–being constantly focused on the drama keeps you from having to focus on THE MAN YOU ARE WITH, i.e., if there are underlying issues with the relationship, you don’t have to deal with them because you are too busy focusing on all of the drama. So, I think it’s a weird twisted diversion of some sort that keeps you from addressing the more important issues that could exist in the relationship. I see all kinds of red flags with her relationship with this man, but I have to remember, it’s not my business and it’s her life. I just miss my friend.

By: JohnofScribbleSheet

JohnofScribbleSheet — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 17:21:07 +0000

Drama is fun, when your young. But I have to admit, it can grate on you.

By: Mims

Mims — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 16:50:06 +0000

Like a drug, drama is physically addictive. Anxiety, misery, upset and emotional pain release beta-endorphins, the “feel good” chemicals, into the body. You keep going back to it for a hit. For a fix. For your high. You don’t know why, but it hurts so good.
Deliberately starting arguments is a hit.
Reliving confrontations, arguments, or painful episodes over and over in your head is a hit.
Repetitive obsessive compulsive behaviors is a hit.
Imagining a confrontation or an argument with him is a hit.
Creating or participating in drama in your work, family, or social situation is a hit.
You tell yourself in sane moments that you’ve had enough. You get angry wondering why you fell for it again, why you got into it with him again, why you let him get to you again, why you can’t seem to “just say no.” Getting a hit of beta-endorphin is an addition and you crave it.

By: Lee

Lee — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 15:30:52 +0000

So true!! Why does one do such a thing? Are we trying to re-create our past, upbringing? How does one free themselves from this vicious cycle? It begins to feel like a HOPELESS situation and makes you want to run from any kind of relationship inspite of your intense desire to love and want to be loved. Another element here, for atleast me is that I think I’m realizing that I find it difficult to receive love(even though deep down inside everyone wants to be loved) so in that case, it’s easy to be with someone who is expecting all the attention to go to them and putting your own needs/desires aside…does that make sense? Where do you start in the process of ending this dysfunction?