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By: Getting Your Wake Up Call: Relationship Epiphanies | Baggage Reclaim

Getting Your Wake Up Call: Relationship Epiphanies | Baggage Reclaim — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:31:48 +0000

[...] New here? Subscribe to my RSS feed or via email. Or follow viaFacebook or Twitter. Also check out my ebooks – The No Contact Ruleand Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl.A few years back I wrote about when you have an epiphany relationship: [...]

By: systah

systah — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:41:06 +0000

Thank you for this. I Had an epiphany a month ago with my ex. Same situation, the night before we had a great time. Earlier that same day he had called before my interview just to offload his work crap on me, oh yeah, and to wish me good luck. THe next day he called me to “make him happy” because he was having another bad work day. I called him a couple minutes later after receiving a call that I got the job. His reaction was “what?” in a sarcastic tone and “how much does it pay?” and “Your going to have to find someone else to hang out with because I have work stuff that came up”… I realized that moment that he would never be there for me to celebrate my successes or when I truly need him.. Three weeks earlier I sprained my ankle, he indirectly caused this. He bailed that week that I could not walk due to supposed work overload. This epiphany was a slow build up and then BANG. I broke up with him that day. It was hard because I never want to kick someone when they’re down. But he had all ready cheated on me and I bailed on my self respect then. I don’t know why this was the moment but it just was. I realize now I need to take time to figure out why I hook up with these guys, what I need to change to help me value myself more and not get hooked in with these guys. I am now so angry at myself but that is part of the healing stages. I need to get to the point where I accept myself then I will be open to changing how I see relationships. I’ve only been in ones that were clearly one sided. Thank God for epiphanies. It is painful, emotionally and physically because we feel we betrayed ourselves. But all in all, it’s about treating us like the lost little girls we are with unconditional love and nurture our hurts to where we can love real men and know when we’re ready to be in a healthy relationship. I’m 39, no children so am definitely trying to work on that “desperate” feeling as well. It is gross to be this way and am working on it.

By: Butterfly

Butterfly — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 11:31:28 +0000

Wow. I think I’ve had that – as well as reading about the experiences with people using the net for dating (this is only day 2 of finding Baggage Reclaim) I got a mail from someone who had been “busy” etc and it ended in the word … soon.

Previously I’d have taken that as enticing, now I am seeing that word and not replying. Thanks NML!

By: Aphrogirl

Aphrogirl — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 05:39:42 +0000

I am getting out of degrading and yet insightful relationship with an EUM.

Men with slight EUM tendencies have always suited me well because even though I am open,giving, loving and able to receive…. I have never wanted to be committed to a man for the rest of my life, as in marriage.

I want to be able to leave easily if it gets dismal. More than half the woman I know in decades long marriages are in an unhappy holding pattern. Anybody know that John Prime song…Angel from Montgomery ?

So, I have never wanted long term commitments. My first experience with a real ass clown ( in middle age !) was fascinating, in that I was willing to accept such degrading behavior and still want attention from a perp who appeared unable to give anything. Even worse, I actually started to convince myself that he was a very special person. On another level I knew something was wrong, and those two things together were so confusing.

And I am staring to see that, just as described above, this is an epiphany relationship that has helped me mature.

I am becoming free of my desire for him, that is the important part. Always knew there was something wrong….

Lots of good thoughts here, thank you.

By: The Drama Reduction 12 Step Programme

The Drama Reduction 12 Step Programme — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 17:12:18 +0000

[...] We will have an Epiphany Moment or Relationship as a result of the awakening caused by these steps and the 30 Days of Drama Reduction [...]

By: My Epiphany Moment in Drama Seeking

My Epiphany Moment in Drama Seeking — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:23:51 +0000

[...] while back I wrote about Epiphany Relationships – “a relationship that caused you to have a sudden clarity and insight into that particular [...]

By: Felicia

Felicia — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 07:19:13 +0000

Aha! this moment occurred last week for me and having stumbled across this website, I actually have the confidence to move forward and not blame myself. To have a man tell me he can date me only if he doesn’t get emotionally attached was the most absurd and brutal eye opener of all. Wow, what have I been accepting and attracting from men? Could not have been more obvious, but to me it was the final straw and epiphany to an end of a cycle. Fabulous blog! Guess we are all blinded by hopes of love.

By: Helen

Helen — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 10:05:21 +0000

This is so absolutely true…my moment of epiphany was last year. Great post!

By: Kellie

Kellie — Thu, 05 Jul 2007 05:37:55 +0000

brilliant site! brilliant article~! seriously the best i have come across in my mad efforts to come to terms with my recent Ephiphany experience. we were great friends, heading towards luuurve, and then it crashed and burned and he became Mr Unavailable but Still There Kind Of, and i became Desperate Loser yoyo Girl.
keep writing… thank you!

By: AngelOwl

AngelOwl — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 10:06:48 +0000

How true.
My Epiphany is strikingly similar. After a night together the guy says to me “I suppose I ought to send you a text” [the missing bit of the sentence is "once I have decided whether I want to commit to a relationship or not"].
A text!!!!!!! What was I to expect, something like “You’re hired!” a-la Sir Alan Sugar?
Sure enough the text never came and after not answering the phone for five long days he managed to call and dump me. But by that time he had missed the surprise factor.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 17:58:36 +0000

I find this read most helpful,and added enlightenment .I have went through my share of realtionships only to feel empty and confused as to my own behaviors,in my history. Having been married very young and divorced 18 years Ive also wondered if in fact it were I that was emotionaly unavailable. Growth through the tears -self imposed prehaps. I long for the day the unit of completeness arrives. Yet there are areas of growth yet to go through.This reafirms that which I have pieced for my own self truth.To find I am not so off the charts gives reasurance to continue self evaluation.This being said, I might add.That in my Epiphany; I have found going to seek advice of those on the “professional level” can have imput but it must come from inside.Take what you know to be your truth and ponder the rest. I look forward to future reads as this. Having access to looking from the out side in gives open minded,a fresh start.

By: Vixen

Vixen — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 04:32:01 +0000

NML, this is so absolutely true and I’ve noticed that once a woman has an Epiphany Relationship, the next one ends up being the real deal. I just wish the Epiphany happened earlier rather than later…lol.

By: Vixen

Vixen — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 04:27:06 +0000

NML