Comments on: Famous Mr Unavailable’s and Fallback Girls: John Mayer

By: Kat

Kat — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 14:40:26 +0000

Well said, thanks for writing this. He is playing typical rock star and wrapping it up in a nice wholesome clean package, but it still stinks. However, in all fairness Mr. Mayer insists in the press that he is a nice guy and that none of his exes would have anything bad to say about him, because he is frank and honest with the ladies. Maybe he is just dating around to in search of the “perfect girl”, the reflection of his ego and effectively leaving a trail of bodies in his wake. It is a little odd that it took four months for he and Jennifer Anniston to realize that their chemistry isn’t right…according to him. I think her flying around following him on tour (which is what a person who thinks they are in a relationship does) is what pushed the pin in that relationship.

I do give him credit for not wanting to waste anymore of her time and cutting her loose to find someone better. However, he could have kept his mouth shut about it. He says decided to open his mouth to supposedly speak up for her, but looks more like his lip service has done her a disservice and was designed to protect his own rep and prevent damage to his future dating prospects. It makes me wonder if he in fact was the person who initiated the break up.

By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 01:04:48 +0000

WELL SAID.

IT ALMOST MAKES ME WISH THE NEXY GUY WHO PURSUES ME IS FAMOUS -SO THAT YOU KNOW WHAT HIS DEAL IS BEFORE i GET HOODWINKED !!!

By: Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 19:04:47 +0000

When I saw John Mayer’s speech to the paparazzi on You Tube I thought I was listening to my ex-EUM. It was uncanny. It was such a condescending thing for him to be saying - the whole thing made me cringe. I agree he is completely unavailable. “She’s one of the most lovely, sophisticated women I have ever met”, the whole ranting about being “honest”, his turning it onto him as the person going through “something personal” and having to “give something up” just made me want to puke.

It is such a typical EUM move to make him seem like the wounded one and that he is doing the “honorable thing”. You know what - when an EUM does this to your face that’s one form of cowardice but when he’s a celebrity and he announces it to the paparazzi to be broadcast around the world - well that just takes it to a whole other level.

I really hope Jennifer thinks he’s a walking a-hole now and does not thing he was doing the “honorable” thing.

Nope - all he was doing was trying to convince the world that he is a “good” or a “nice” guy.

They are all the same - mega platinum hit singer songwriter or bumbling salesman - it all ends up - his behavior says - he doesn’t want a relationship and isn’t worth your time. Yet, he can’t have people thinking he wasn’t being “honorable”.

Maddening. But - as long as Jen doesn’t engage with him any further and keeps her head up high - she wins - in my opinion.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 17:59:09 +0000

This is so true! I’m so glad you wrote this post, because I’d picked up some time back that John Mayer was definately a EUM. Jen Aniston should have stayed clear of this guy to begin with, just considering his reputation. It does seem though that she realized pretty early on that this guy was just another in the long list of EUM for her, and she actually seemed relieved to get out of the relationship. I knew there was something bad about John Mayer’s relationships when I begin to see the parade of women on the cover of the rag magazines. But what really confirmed it was the pictures of him and Jessica Simpson arguing on vaction and pictures of her sobbing on the patio in Mexico. Plus all the interviews she gave after their break up. She talk about how being with him had totally destroyed her self-esteem and how she spent so much time trying to be who she thought he wanted her to be, instead of being happy with herself. That said it all right there. His music is great, but like typical EUM he obviously doesn’t look at himself enough to realize he’s never going to be happy without fixing himself. He’s always gone on and on on his blog about how his life would be just perfect if he could meet the “perfect” girl. Only she doesn’t exsist.

By: AmyT

AmyT — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 15:23:21 +0000

I ADORE John Mayer’s music. But he’s always seemed like a dipsh-t to me, and this just confirms it.

Even though it’s unlikely, if Jennifer Aniston (or any of the other women John has hurt) is still hurting, I hope she sees this.

I also hate that the media seems to think that Jen can’t be happy unless she’s coupled up. She’s rich, gorgeous and talented - she doesn’t need a man!

By: FinallyOverIt

FinallyOverIt — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 15:19:21 +0000

Yes, John Mayer is an EUM….I think it’s kind of funny that he has that song about “fathers be good to your daughters–daughters will live like you do–girls become lovers who turn into mothers–fathers be good to your daughters, too”–that song cracks me up because he sings about not being able to get close to a woman because she is messed up because of her distant relationship with her father….he needs to actually look into his music and try to learn something about himself!

By: elp08

elp08 — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:42:39 +0000

I’ve totally had this same conversation with my girlfriend just yesterday about John Mayer - uhhgh! That bit about him being a relationship ambulance chaser - perfect. That’s what my EUM was too - trolling for unhappy, hurt and broken women to add to his harem.
In related news - I just watched “Gossip Girl” for the first time last night - Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass are teaching a whole new generation of EUMs and fallback girls all the moves. It was so creepy that I actually felt sick to my stomach.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:40:03 +0000

OMG! This was brilliant! I love his music but even when you put aside any speculation by the press there is no escaping the very clear Mr Unavailable signs. My ex was SO like him it was frightening! They say one thing, do another, and they are very good at making you feel like the centre of their world. I followed mine around all over the place as he was a musician. He told me I was the one but 3 months in and I often found myself waiting in line for attention and rumour after rumour kept surfacing about him f’ng around on me. Like LisaQ what really resonated with me was the harem - the guy had women everywhere. Friends, backup singers, acquaintances, the woman who cut his hair. I found him nauseating!
I learnt a lot from this because what this relationship screams of is a woman who thought she could do what so many others have tried to. Yup, that was me.

By: Brad K.

Brad K. — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:39:54 +0000

I think Jennifer Aniston is a warning here.

Falling for someone while ‘on the rebound’ is risky. You are most likely to attract someone looking for injured prey or for an ‘easy’ charity case. A predator will see a quick opportunity to *look* like a good guy, for a time, where a good guy would see the hurt but not a mate-prospect or a likely date.

It can be easy to mistake the predator pursuing ‘easy prey’ for ‘easy to get to know’.

By: annied

annied — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:32:46 +0000

AMEN Sistah! I am … the biggest John Mayer MUSIC fan ever. I have his name on my license plate … among other things. But music aside, he is nothing more than a Man-Whore. Sorry, Dude. What NML says is 100% true.

And then he sings this sad ballads about finding the right one “… I’m tired of being alone, so hurry up and get here … you’ll be so good, you’ll be so good for me.”

Sums it up, doesn’t it? Good for him. Nobody but you, John, nobody but you (assclown). hee hee

By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 12:27:09 +0000

Ugh! Exactly why I avoid celeb gossip like the plague! We run into enough of them in our own daily lives. I certainly don’t need to see them help up by the press and revered by the public. Did you hear about so and so? No, thank God!

Oh and that #3 harem thing? That sounds eerily familiar! Gotta remember to watch out for that one!