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		<title>Why Doesn’t My Emotionally Unavailable Guy/Assclown See a Committed Relationship With Me?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I wrote a post on the subject of &#8216;why doesn&#8217;t he envision a committed relationship with me?&#8217; which tackles the part of the issue that you can tackle &#8211; you. Towards the end of the post I highlighted how if someone doesn&#8217;t want commitment, you could be the most perfect person on earth and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-doesnt-my-emotionally-unavailable-guyassclown-see-a-committed-relationship-with-me/</link>
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		<title>Why Doesn’t He Envision a Committed Relationship With Me?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A frequent question I&#8217;m asked is a variation of &#8216;Why doesn&#8217;t he envision a committed relationship with me?&#8217; .There are all sorts of factors that can cause someone to be afraid of commitment but if you want to tackle the part of the situation that you can control, you need to realise how people see [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-doesnt-he-envision-a-committed-relationship-with-me/</link>
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		<title>Are you chasing your tail? Using dating several people, jealousy, possessiveness &amp; an air of elusiveness to capture your man</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve had a number of emails and comments since I wrote about how dating several people at once is a sign of your own emotional unavailability and commitment resistance, naturally with some saying how wrong I am but with the others wanting my thoughts on using dating several people with a view to making the [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/are-you-chasing-your-tail-using-dating-several-people-jealousy-possessiveness-an-air-of-elusiveness-to-capture-your-man/</link>
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		<title>Understanding Why Dating Several People at a Time is Messy &amp; a Sign of Your Emotional Unavailability &amp; Commitment Resistance</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Over the past few weeks in particular, I&#8217;ve had quite a few readers tell me that they&#8217;re dating multiple people, something I find exhausting just thinking about it, but at the same time rather fascinating because I find that people give me all sorts of reasons for why they do it: I&#8217;m just experimenting with [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/understanding-why-dating-several-people-at-a-time-is-messy-a-sign-of-your-emotional-unavailability-commitment-resistance/</link>
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		<title>What do you believe about YOU? Your Beliefs Tell You What You Think Are Your Capabilities in that Capacity</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A while back I wrote about how we validate ourselves with our self-fulfilling prophecies by carrying negative beliefs about love, relationships, and ourselves that are reflected in how we act and in the relationships we engage in. &#8220;Seeking validation in relationships is when you look to get confirmation that something is true. This cuts both [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-do-you-believe-in-about-you-your-beliefs-tell-you-what-you-think-are-your-capabilities-in-that-capacity/</link>
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		<title>What are you afraid of? Worry &amp; Holding Yourself Back</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Many of us engage in what I call relationship insanity which is where you carry the same baggage, beliefs, attitudes and behaviours, choose variations of the same person different package and then expect different results. When we want to experience real change in our lives and break the pattern, it means having to get out [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-are-you-afraid-of-worry-holding-yourself-back/</link>
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		<title>Woohoo! Baggage Reclaim Shortlisted for the Cosmo Blog Awards &#8211; Thank You!</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Major thanks to you all as you have got me shortlisted for the Cosmo Blog Awards after I wrote about it last month. Your support means a hell of a lot and my work reaching a very different audience of the Cosmo reader is helping me spread the Baggage Reclaim message &#8211; offload your baggage [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/woohoo-baggage-reclaim-shortlisted-for-the-cosmo-blog-awards-thank-you/</link>
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		<title>100 Tips &amp; Thoughts for Better Self-Esteem &#8211; A Guide To Happiness &amp; Improved Sense of Self</title>
		<description><![CDATA[1. If you can&#8217;t date with self-esteem, boundaries, and values, don&#8217;t date until you can because not only will you feel fleeting highs and plenty of lows, but the absence of these things makes for damaging relationships. Give yourself a dating and sex hiatus and deal with these issues as you will be far more [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100-tips-thoughts-for-better-self-esteem-because-if-you-dont-like-love-you-youll-choose-people-that-reflect-this/</link>
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		<title>Mini Video: Missing Someone That Mistreated You is Like Mourning The Loss of Trash</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A selection of postsAge Gap RelationshipsRecognising Things About Yourself In the Man You Profess to Love &#8211; Part 1Great Date IdeasTalking Dirty to Your Man (The Starter Edition)Coping With Smug MarriedsDating Etiquette &#038; Gender RolesHow To Avoid Online Dating HellUSB Pole DancerAm I Too Picky? The Tricky Issue of Quality Control In Dating &#038; Relationships [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/mini-video-missing-someone-that-mistreated-you-is-like-mourning-the-loss-of-trash/</link>
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		<title>Mini Video: Don’t Allow Exes to Keep a Foothold in Your Life or Demote You to Booty Call</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Related PostsWhat do you believe about YOU? Your Beliefs Tell You What You Think Are Your Capabilities in that CapacityWhat are you afraid of? Worry &#038; Holding Yourself BackWhy He&#8217;s Not An Assclown Because He Broke Up With You/Doesn&#8217;t Want a RelationshipHappy Birthday: 33 Thoughts on Relationships, Self-Esteem, and Life!A Tale of Making The Mistake [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-allow-exes-to-keep-a-foothold-in-your-life-or-demote-you-to-booty-call/</link>
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		<title>Why Dating Is a Discovery Phase To Work Out If You Want a Relationship (With Them)</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been in enough pseudo, illusionary relationships to know that I have sometimes made assumptions about the state of play and engaged in behaviour that was counterproductive to me actually forging a healthy relationship with a chance of growing. This happens because the lines get blurred between &#8216;dating&#8217; and a &#8216;relationship&#8217; and we start building [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-dating-is-a-discovery-phase-to-work-out-if-you-want-a-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Guest Post: Marriage Lessons That Can Benefit Any Relationship</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Today I have an inspiring guest post from reader Susie of the blog New Day New Lesson sharing her thoughts on relationship attitudes that will benefit any relationship, married or not. I love that at the heart of it, Susie emphasises the importance of getting your own emotional house in order and having your own [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/guest-post-marriage-lessons-that-can-benefit-any-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Getting Past The Fault Lines – Relationships are 100:100 Partnership, Not 50:50</title>
		<description><![CDATA[One of the things I regularly hear from readers I work with privately and see in the comments is this whole idea of who contributed what and working out the responsibility lines. In fact, it&#8217;s a general attitude about relationships. A tricky business, when the relationship is still ongoing it&#8217;s gets into blame territory and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/getting-past-the-fault-lines-relationships-are-100100-partnerships-not-5050/</link>
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		<title>Why He&#8217;s Not An Assclown Because He Broke Up With You/Doesn&#8217;t Want a Relationship</title>
		<description><![CDATA[The moment that the decision is made for a relationship to end and the words are final, we feel an immense sense of loss, of insecurity, indignant hurt, and as the dust settles and the days and weeks pass, white space appears where you originally had plans with them. Depending on how you tend to [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-hes-not-an-assclown-because-he-broke-up-with-youdoesnt-want-a-relationship/</link>
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		<title>Getting Real About Recognising Inappropriate Relationship Behaviour: He Doesn’t Need To Cheat (or Beat) To Be An Assclown</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In my last post I wrote about the key behaviours that assclowns rely on to mistreat you and manage the relationship on their terms including passive aggression, erasing the past by pressing The Reset Button, and deciding that &#8216;I&#8217;m not that bad&#8217; because they have other ideas of what they constitute as &#8216;bad&#8217; so they [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/getting-real-about-recognising-inappropriate-relationship-behaviour-he-doesnt-need-to-cheat-or-beat-to-be-an-assclown/</link>
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