<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><!-- generator="WordPress/2.8.6" -->
<rss version="0.92">
<channel>
	<title>Baggage Reclaim</title>
	<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk</link>
	<description>Self Esteem&#124;Dating&#124;Relationships&#124;Emotional Unavailability&#124;Commitment&#124;</description>
	<lastBuildDate>Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:01:37 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<docs>http://backend.userland.com/rss092</docs>
	<language>en</language>
	
	<item>
		<title>Should I Give Him A Second Chance? Or a 3rd, 4th, 20th&#8230;</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
Ah, Valentine&#8217;s Day is approaching and much like Christmas, exes will be potentially creeping out of the woodworks. Maybe you&#8217;ve been broken up for a while, watched him waltz off with someone else and have been wondering, &#8216;Why her and not me?&#8216; Or maybe he&#8217;s not with someone else (or at least not that you [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/should-i-give-him-a-second-chance-or-a-3rd-4th-20th/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>So&#8230;What is he thinking when he keeps making contact or tries to get back together?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[In another excerpt from my ebook The No Contact Rule, I highlight the age old activity of wondering what he&#8217;s thinking. Between adding more meaning to his behaviour and judging things based on your own actions or on those of &#8216;normal&#8217; people, it&#8217;s easy to expend a lot of mental energy and particularly when you&#8217;re [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/so-what-is-he-thinking-when-he-keeps-making-contact-or-tries-to-get-back-together/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Forget &#8216;Mr. Good Enough&#8217;, Mr Perfect &amp; The Fairy Tale: Get Real So You Can Get Happy</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
  

Over the past week or so, I can&#8217;t seem to escape the title of this new book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough written by Lori Gottlieb, a New York based author who is basically saying that women who continue the pursuit of &#8216;Mr Right&#8217; are setting themselves up [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/forget-mr-good-enough-mr-perfect-the-fairy-tale/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating &amp; Relationships Part Two</title>
		<description><![CDATA[A few days ago, I gave you all an insight into how I bounced from relationship to relationship unwittingly playing &#8216;the opposites game&#8217; &#8211; where you subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) home in on a trait(s) of your last partner that you believe to be part of the reason why the relationship didn&#8217;t work and then [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-polar-opposites-game-in-dating-relationships-part-two/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>The (Polar) Opposites Game in Dating &amp; Relationships (Part One)</title>
		<description><![CDATA[Many moons ago, I went out with a guy who was about 9 years older than me. He chased me hard, I wasn&#8217;t interested, but after being burnt by another Mr Unavailable who had the looks, charm, flash car, and excitement (I was only 21&#8230;), suddenly, even though he didn&#8217;t &#8216;look&#8217; like my &#8216;type&#8217;, it [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-polar-opposites-game-in-dating-relationships/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Are You Compromised In Your Relationships?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[I look back at some of my past relationships and I compromised and was so compromised that I didn&#8217;t recognise myself. My boundaries would get battered, I&#8217;d forget about things that I valued, and I would morph to reduce the conflicts that were arising in my relationship, both between myself and the guy, and also [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-compromised-are-you-in-relationships-understanding-compromise-in-relationships/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Knowing When To Fold: Bad Investments in Relationships &amp; Seeing The Bigger Picture</title>
		<description><![CDATA[

  

As feedback starts coming through about my new ebook The No Contact Rule, one of the things that seems to have resonated most with readers is realising that when a relationship ends, it&#8217;s not about you being someone to reject, or that you&#8217;re a failure and that you should beat yourself up; it&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold-bad-investments-in-relationships-seeing-the-bigger-picture/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>I&#8217;m Successful! Why Am I Still Single?</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
  

Being successful is something that most of us strive for in some, way, shape or form. Success means different things to different people and sometimes, it&#8217;s driven by an indefinable reason that you just can&#8217;t put your finger on. You just know that you value something, it&#8217;s important, and you won&#8217;t feel &#8217;successful&#8217; [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/im-successful-why-am-i-still-single/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Understanding Why Relationships Don&#8217;t Always Work Out</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
I get a lot of people telling me variations of &#8216;I don&#8217;t understand why my relationship failed! Help!&#8217;
This is particularly difficult to comprehend when it seemed like your relationship had so much promise. We can internalise this &#8216;failure&#8217; and also miss the point of our relationships, and so end up repeating the same patterns in [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-relationships-dont-work-out/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>The Life Lessons: How relationships teach us more about ourselves</title>
		<description><![CDATA[

  

Last week I talked about being authentic for more positive living; knowing who you are and standing by you even when the times are tough. Knowing yourself enough to assimilate what you&#8217;re feeling and recognising when things are not in line with desires, needs, wants, and values that you profess to have, and [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-life-lessons-how-relationships-teach-us-more-about-ourselves/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Knowing If You Feel Good In New Relationships &#8211; Part Two</title>
		<description><![CDATA[

  

In part one, I talked about the prep work needed for you to be in a fairly optimal position for dating and relationships and some of the initial signals that you can use to determine whether you&#8217;re feeling good in a good relationship, or catering to patterns in a familiar negative relationship, which [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-if-you-feel-good-in-new-relationships-part-two/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Knowing If You Feel Good In New Relationships &#8211; Part One</title>
		<description><![CDATA[

  

I&#8217;m regularly told by readers, that after being involved in various dubious relationships they&#8217;re not sure what to expect from a new relationship. How should it feel? What does it look like? What am I looking out for? How do I know if it feels good? I know what&#8217;s bad now but what&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-if-you-feel-good-in-new-relationships-part-one/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Being authentic in your relationships for more positive living</title>
		<description><![CDATA[

I&#8217;ve talked a lot about boundaries, how actions speak louder than words, and how we can teach people how to treat us and also what to expect from us. I&#8217;ve talked about low self-esteem and how we choose partners that reflect the things that we believe about ourselves, and I hope I&#8217;ve given you umpteen [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-authentic-in-your-relationships-for-more-positive-living/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>The Outrageous Principle &#8211; When someone tests you to see how much they can get away with</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
  


  

Recently, a lot of the emails and comments I&#8217;ve received have had an element of the author being totally bewildered by the outrageousness of the people they&#8217;ve been involved with. Like a lot of things in life, we measure other people&#8217;s behaviour by our own so often, it can make absolutely [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-outrageous-principle-when-someone-tests-you-to-see-how-much-they-can-get-away-with/</link>
			</item>
	<item>
		<title>Getting Over Him When You Thought You Were Friends &#8211; Part Two</title>
		<description><![CDATA[
  

In part one of my two part post on getting over an ex when you thought you were friends, I explained about one of my worst experiences of the so-called &#8216;friend&#8217; dynamic and how the contradiction of my exes behaviour, combined with my own misery and inability to move forward, finally gave me [...]]]></description>
		<link>http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/getting-over-him-when-you-thought-you-were-friends-part-two/</link>
			</item>
</channel>
</rss>
