Comments on: Five Key Questions to Ask Yourself Before Dating

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Tue, 20 May 2008 23:00:13 +0000

NLM,
This site looks sooo freaken great!! Sorry that i haven’t been around lately. Just been extremely busy. Will be coming out a post this week for you =)

But you also have a lot of great stuff to say in this post. I think its really important as to why you are dating again. Because a lot of people do it for the wrong reasons.

They date, in an unhealthy way because they want to get rid of an emotion of loneliness or what not.

Well you know what??? Feeling lonely sometimes is a great thing while you are being single. Because it gives you so much more opportunity to connect with the people around you.

thanks for the great post.

HAF

http://www.hotalphafemale.blogpspot.com

By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 20 May 2008 11:14:47 +0000

You got it girl! I know that I was operating out of fear of being alone in the past and that was definitely my downfall. The problem was that even though I knew it, I didn’t see it for what it was and I damn sure didn’t put that together with the kind of men I was attracting. It definitely put the UGH in ugly!

When you begin to fall in love with you, the shift in your thinking and in who you are attracting doesn’t let you ignore that shit. The problem is that most of us don’t take the time or can’t face what we see in the mirror. Lord knows facing our truths and our reality isn’t always fun, but it is extremely rewarding and more than necessary.

By: Sindh

Sindh — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:36:50 +0000

Dear NML
I absolutely love the new look here, its great and the article even much better.
Getting to this article – Great timing, for me at least . I am just begining to try dating again and I will say is much HARDER this time around because I know what I want after being through the wringer with my EUM, I believe I came under the sport category, he led me to believe there was something by saying he was comiitted to me and the relationship but 20 months later, I was clinging on to my last shred of self esteem not knowing (as you would say it) my arse from my elbow, it has been one of the most difficult times of my life but this site, rediscovering spirituality, soltitude has helped, you are absolutely right.

I have sat down and questioned me, did I know what I wanted, what I needed, what was self respect, what defines abuse, what does one take and one put down the foot on. When to most importantly say NO this is not for me even in the plain sight of temptation. I know my earlier relationship disaster started pretty much thinking I was in control and could bail out anytime I wanted – WRONG.

You are right NML when we don’t stand for something, we fall for just about anything. I am learning to be alone, learing to put importance on me and my needs and most importantly saying NO when it does not mesh with my needs. I went out on a date with a guy last weekend who sat that and told me that he believed in being “Friends with Benefits” and I told him there and then that was not what I wanted and well that was that.

I must say that this site has helped me tremendously. Wish me luck ladies.
God Bless