Comments on: Get Real About Being ‘Nice’ in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 20:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Christian http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1898 Christian Mon, 24 Jul 2006 14:36:26 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/#comment-1898 yea man well said, equally applies to women too yes?? yea man well said, equally applies to women too yes??

]]> By: Vixen http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1520 Vixen Sat, 24 Jun 2006 05:08:37 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/#comment-1520 I'm with you on this one. If you wear the Nice Mask all the time, you aren't really being yourself. Who really wants to be in a relationship with a fraud anyway? And then---when the mask comes off, it's this big can of worms that should have never started. Great post! I’m with you on this one. If you wear the Nice Mask all the time, you aren’t really being yourself. Who really wants to be in a relationship with a fraud anyway? And then—when the mask comes off, it’s this big can of worms that should have never started. Great post!

]]> By: Brad K http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1517 Brad K Fri, 23 Jun 2006 20:40:09 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/#comment-1517 I like that part about 'It’s about being real'. If you act nice when that isn't how you feel, you are deceiving yourself about what is important -- what you reacted to (or should have reacted to), and you are lying to your date/partner/mate. Your niceness says 'I approve/enjoy what you are doing (did).' Now you are focused on 'Am I hiding my real feelings well enough that he/she cannot tell?' and she/he has no idea they found something that darkens your day. Continue this deceit for long, and you change yourself into something fake. Thanks for a great post! I like that part about ‘It’s about being real’. If you act nice when that isn’t how you feel, you are deceiving yourself about what is important — what you reacted to (or should have reacted to), and you are lying to your date/partner/mate. Your niceness says ‘I approve/enjoy what you are doing (did).’ Now you are focused on ‘Am I hiding my real feelings well enough that he/she cannot tell?’ and she/he has no idea they found something that darkens your day. Continue this deceit for long, and you change yourself into something fake.

Thanks for a great post!

]]> By: UnKnownDiva http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1514 UnKnownDiva Fri, 23 Jun 2006 17:28:30 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/#comment-1514 I've been there too N! As a matter of fact just got back. And this was definitely a lesson well learned. It hurt for a few days but, you know what? I'm good. There were a lot of things I didn't like about him anyway and I felt obligated to be with him only because he was nice to me. I want a nice guy, nothing wrong with that, right. I'll just have to ask God to send the right nice guy for me. Until then.... I’ve been there too N!
As a matter of fact just got back. And this was definitely a lesson well learned. It hurt for a few days but, you know what? I’m good. There were a lot of things I didn’t like about him anyway and I felt obligated to be with him only because he was nice to me. I want a nice guy, nothing wrong with that, right. I’ll just have to ask God to send the right nice guy for me. Until then….

]]> By: Baggage Reclaim - The guide to single living, dating, relationships and of course man taming » Archives » Next Week on Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1511 Baggage Reclaim - The guide to single living, dating, relationships and of course man taming » Archives » Next Week on Baggage Reclaim Fri, 23 Jun 2006 14:58:42 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/get-real-about-being-nice-relationships/#comment-1511 [...] Get Real About Being ‘Nice’ Relationships [...] [...] Get Real About Being ‘Nice’ Relationships [...]

]]>