Comments on: Getting real about Successful Relationships

By: Gina

Gina — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 18:37:19 +0000

I suppose the bottom line is the only time a relationship can work is when two individuals are fulfilled on a core level, have a healthy type of mutual passion and desire for one another, have some common interests to share (more about being able to be fulfilled when spending time together) … but just like you said, aren’t co-dependent and are able to be individuals, with passions outside of their relationship, which ultimately bring their relationship together.

By: RES

RES — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 22:42:07 +0000

Definitely one to read and re-read. Totally refrigerator material!

By: Gaynor

Gaynor — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 05:07:28 +0000

We should all print out this article and attach it to our refrigerators!!

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 21:40:43 +0000

Great post! I entered the contest too, and am enjoying reading everyone’s thoughts! I totally agree with your number 1 – enter with minimal baggage, meaning you’ve done your work on yourself. And I like most of your list.

But number 6 – If the relationship involves fixing, healing, helping, or essentially hoping that one or both of you will change, run like your life depends on it. I’m not so sure. I agree that longterm a relationship like this probably won’t work out, but I suggest you DON’T run like hell. Learn from it first. If no one learns, the same situation will rear its ugly head further down the line.

By: lisaq

lisaq — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:30:57 +0000

Fabulously done NML! So many times we think that finding the right emotionally available guy is the ‘work.’ Those that do acknowledge that relationships take work, don’t realize that it won’t feel like work. They think drama and all the crap that comes with it IS the work.

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 08:37:32 +0000

Hey girl,
You know what? You make a freaken awesome point there. That relationships take work!

So many times, i think people hold it in their heads that having an ideal relationship, is something like a fairytale or like you see in the movies.

But i think that real love .. is really about going through the challenges whatever that may be .. and after all has been said and done … you can still look them in the eye and tell them that you love them.

With that said … i think that relationships are that wonderful vehicle which magnifys our life and by which we can learn the most about ourselves.

Great post darl

HAF