“Men have been socially conditioned to believe that they are supposed to run out there and sow their wild oats”

Are you FRIGGIN’ KIDDING ME??? Look, I’m a man. I’ve never believed in this. Perhaps that’s why I Didn’t get laid more in college. I didn’t start having sex until 25 when I got my girlfriend, unfortunately a Ms. Emotionally Unavailable.

“What we have here is years of misguided social conditioning rearing its ugly head. There are years of repeated behavior coming back to bite men in the ass. By constantly helping to reinforce the idea that women should be up for casual shagging, many women have effectively jumped onto the bandwagon. The words ‘Be careful what you wish for’ have never been more apt!”

I want to know who decided that all of the men in this world go into one little national headquarters and put together these societal guidelines. I sure as heck didn’t have a part in this trend. And theres a TON of guys who are THRILLED that women are now on their page. It means they can have orgy sex and any sex any time they like and they don’t even have to ask. I for one AM NOT.

If anything, it makes it that much harder for me to find ONE GOOD DECENT WOMAN…who enjoys sex.

Message to the modern age fembots bent on turning this into an ‘Us v. Them”: We’re ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!!! And none of us speak for all of us, so drop the stereotypes!

IMO

Girls go through the same transformation. Girls that in school were the most done-up, fashionable, ‘prettiest’, pick some guy with average looks, moderately low social standing among the ‘cliques’. And they go off and lead a reasonably happy, loyal life together.

What happens? Those that learn to attract dates, to date regularly, learn to date. Those that don’t try to date regularly, don’t live in worry about who they will attract next, tend to learn a job, find someone not interested in keeping a dance card filled or three dates every weekend.

Which means, that after High School the number of ‘commitment oriented’ guys has dwindled severely, leaving mostly those skilled or devoted to dating skills. Girls, too, for that matter. Not only do these older daters have investment in life skills to attract potential dates, that is how they define their social lives. These people won’t stop polishing these skills and honing these expectations until they decide they are wrong. But dating is often fun, so there is little incentive to change, and little guidance on what to do instead. Usually all their friends are also actively dating. Mass media celebrates the values and process of living a committed relationship, in intimate and gory detail, very seldom. It isn’t news, when it should be.

If the women looking for a life mate were to stop dating, and start practicing the values that would enable a lifetime relationship, loyalty, honesty, and a joyful life, they would begin to start recognizing men around them with similar character. Or their friends would introduce the occasional prospect.

Maybe a person could figure out what suitable means to them, find where that type of person might call home, move there, then try to make it their home. Remember the Country song about ‘Love grows in small walls’. Mansions grow social obligations.

Why were some nay-saying guys singled out in this article of NML’s? I imagine they happened to be in transition from dating to living. Moral? I don’t know. I suspect it might be something like, “Drop out of the dating scene, then stick to potential partners that have also dropped out. Meet potential partners through people that you respect.”