How Many Sexual Partners?

October 18, 2005 by NML

Whilst at a party recently I disclosed the number of sexual partners I have had. At the end of my sentence my friend let out a loud high pitched sequel. I was shocked at her reaction as she proceeded to jump up and relay the information rather loudly to another friend. This lit the inquisitive fire in me and I began asking questions to a variety of friends and associates.
The Men
The group of men that I talked to were very honest and upfront with the subject. Here are the raw results:

When asked if the truth would be told to their mates, most men tend to add a few to their number or not disclose information at all when talking to their mates. Some even said that they allow their friends to assume and don’t correct false information. When talking to their girls, all the men said they would be honest, because they just are. However, a few men suggested that they were concerned that their honesty may ruin their chances with the lady. Most interesting was that I talked to a few men that had low numbers due to long relationships starting when they were very young. It was a breath of fresh air to know that there are still men out there that have slept with less than ten women. Or maybe I’m just prude?

Almost all the men responded that they are honest because they have nothing to hide. They aren’t ashamed of their past, more than one saying “The past is just that, the past.”

I asked about the necessity of knowing the truth about their partner and here again, many of the men said that the past is the past and it’s up to the lady to discuss it if she so pleases. Almost all the men said that a high number would be a turn off, but each person’s ‘high number’ is different. And discussion of health issues is a must to many. It was interesting to find that men want a lady who knows her way around the bedroom, but they would prefer to show her a thing or two. Basically, “I want to be the best she’s ever had and ruin her for all other men.”

The Women
The conversations I had with the ladies were more relaxed and in small circles resulting in giggles and bragging. I was surprised at how easily women gave up their number. I was beginning to think that many women add to their number when talking to friends, much like men do! I had one friend tell me that she would lie if she thought she’d be judged for telling the truth. Another said that she would sleep with a man if he was “promising” in the money department and then lie to him and tell him he was the best she’d ever had. Most of the older women who have been married for more than twenty years, said it was none of their business. One woman got so offended by the pure thought of the question even being asked.

It appears that as different as we are, men and women tend to do the same thing when this subject is brought about.

So my study concludes with this, do you really know what the truth is? What drives us to lie or be truthful? Why is sex such a big deal to some and not so much to others? So many questions left unanswered, my mind is spinning.

As for me, I’m not ashamed of my number. In fact I believe many would let out a high pitched sequel. At 29 years old, my grand total is:

ONE.

man.

He’s the best I’ve ever had and has ruined me for all other men.