How NYM Discovered Great Sex Part VI
June 6, 2006 by NYM
Finally, how Aaron, the frat boy, taught me what sex is all about. (And, no, it’s not some squishy lovey dovey BS.)
This man and I had chemistry. The kind of chemistry that a person only ever finds with a few people. In order to have mind-blowing sex, the kind I’ve been talking about, you’ve got to have chemistry. But if you’re having sex with people with whom you don’t feel any chemistry, then you’re dealing with other issues that I won’t address here. I’ll make an analogy to driving…if sex is driving a car, then great chemistry with your partner is analogous to a straight, flat, smooth strip of asphalt reaching as far in every direction as you can see. But chemistry alone is not enough to produce what I’m talking about. On my first date with Aaron, I learned what the most important ingredient is. (Sometimes it pays to sleep with a man on the first date.)
We were both drunk the day we met, and I guess he wasn’t sure if he had been beer goggling when he asked me out because when I showed up at his door, he opened it, took one look at me and said, “Wow! You look great!” It was a combination of relief and amazement. As soon as I walked into his apartment he admitted that he had made a back-up plan in case I showed up and was a bow-wow. (The blind date backup has got to be the subject of another column…)
So, after a drink at his apartment, we made the rounds and hit nearly every bar in Murray Hill. At the second bar, after I had had just enough drinks, he laid the line on me while looking deeply into my eyes, “You have beautiful eyes.” I creamed my panties and we started making out. I don’t think we stopped shoving our tongues down each other’s throats for the next 4 hours. And only came up for air when we got back to his apartment. Now, I had absolutely no intention of having sex with this guy. A little fooling around, some tonsil hockey…but no intercourse. Why? No, not because I’m morally against sex on the first date (after all, sex was the only reason I was out with him anyway). I had my period. Am I against sex during my period? No, but at the time I was still rife with inhibitions, and sex with a new guy during my period was a definite no-no.
But he was very persuasive…
I think it was a combination of our chemistry, the vodka, his fingers, his lips, his tongue, our hormones, and before I knew it, I was lying on his bed with my legs spread. He pulled the tampon out, wrapped it in a paper towel, and buried his face between my legs. We spend the next 4 hours licking, sucking and f****** each other. I didn’t get squeamish when he tried to kiss me after he performed oral sex, I didn’t get squeamish when he tried to lick my ass, I eagerly obliged when he wanted me to masturbate in front of him while he watched, I eagerly obliged to do anything he suggested.
Why was I able to feel comfortable, even excited, to experience things that had formerly made me wince? Not only because he was a highly skilled lover with an extremely large penis with whom I had mind-blowing chemistry. But because he was so uninhibited during sex that it put me at ease and allowed me to become completely uninhibited.
And there it is. In order to be able to experience mind-blowing sex not only do you need chemistry with your partner, but also you must feel uninhibited. You must be able to completely surrender yourself to the mood and to the experience. Allow anything to happen.
That night with Aaron changed my life forever. We continued to be fuckbuddies for about a month after that. He was the best lover I’ve had to date. But thanks to him, I now know that what caliber of sex is possible. And now that I know what is possible, I refuse to ever have bad sex again. Every woman should be so lucky.
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No offense hon, BUT there’s “uninhibited” and then there’s “disgusting”. Don’t get me wrong..I’m glad you enjoyed the experience, but the squick factor is pretty high, here, from my point of view.
Yuck!
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