Here are just some of the signs that let you know that it’s time to make a run for it!

1. You act differently around him and it’s not in a positive way.

2. You spend a lot of your time feel edgy, upset, confused, uncertain, insecure – pretty much negative.

3. You seem to never quite know where you stand.

4. He blows hot and cold.

5. You’re not really bothered one way or another about him, or the relationship.

6. You’re with him because you’re afraid of being ‘alone’.

7. In order for the relationship to work, you need to cut yourself off from family and friends.

8. You both want very different things on key points that are important to you both, but you’re holding out hope that one day he’ll come round to your way of thinking. He’s doing the same.

9. You need to sacrifice the essence of yourself – your character and personality – in order for the relationship to work.

10. You feel bad about yourself around him – He doesn’t bring out the best in you.

11. Your gut tells you that he’s not right for you but you ignore it and continue to feel uncomfortable.

12. The relationship is on his terms and his time.

13. He’s attached to someone else.

14. You think it’s a relationship but it’s actually closer to a booty call/friends with benefits arrangement.

15. He is controlling – jealousy, possessiveness, emotional and physical abuse.

16. He’s emotionally unavailable.

17. You spend a lot of energy trying to fix him.

18. You like the potential of what he could be, rather than the reality of what he is.

19. You’re dating ‘beneath’ yourself so that you think that you can control him and the direction of the relationship.

20. He finds it difficult to make basic efforts such as calling and showing up when he says that he will.

Natalie Lue is the founder and writer of Baggage Reclaim and author of the books Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship and more. Learn more about her here and you can also follow her on Facebook and Twitter – @baggagereclaim .

Natalie (NML) – who has written posts on Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue.

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One Response to 20 Signs That You’re Dating the Wrong Guy

  1. RandomlySane says:

    Certainly been there. But like you said in another post – it’s so typical of us to justify it. He’s hurt and can’t show his true feelings, he’s just really busy, he shows his love/care in different ways, blah, blah, blah…the list really can be endless…

    The only way to nip it in the bud is to seriously see it for what it is and let it go…

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