Comments on: ‘I Can Change Him’ Syndrome/Fixer Uppers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/ Self Esteem|Dating|Relationships|Emotional Unavailability|Commitment| Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:33:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Love Lessons: When You Can’t or Won’t Ask Questions When Dating (P4) – Getting To The Answers | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-265475 Love Lessons: When You Can’t or Won’t Ask Questions When Dating (P4) – Getting To The Answers | Baggage Reclaim Wed, 16 Jun 2010 18:05:57 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-265475 [...] you have found out, have you accepted the information? Or have you rejected it and replaced it with hopes of change(Florence Nightingale and control issues)? No amount of questioning will get that hope confirmed - [...] [...] you have found out, have you accepted the information? Or have you rejected it and replaced it with hopes of change(Florence Nightingale and control issues)? No amount of questioning will get that hope confirmed – [...]

]]> By: Love Lessons: Getting The Relationship You Expect, Not Every Man is Worth Keeping & More | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-264436 Love Lessons: Getting The Relationship You Expect, Not Every Man is Worth Keeping & More | Baggage Reclaim Mon, 07 Jun 2010 18:35:39 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-264436 [...] potential, denying the reality of your relationship and someone’s character, suffering with ‘I Can Change Him’ syndrome and having a penchant for fixing/healing/helping will not stop you from avoiding the [...] [...] potential, denying the reality of your relationship and someone’s character, suffering with ‘I Can Change Him’ syndrome and having a penchant for fixing/healing/helping will not stop you from avoiding the [...]

]]> By: Florence Nightingale: Women That Fix/Heal/Help and Empathy vs Sympathy | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-260389 Florence Nightingale: Women That Fix/Heal/Help and Empathy vs Sympathy | Baggage Reclaim Wed, 05 May 2010 18:04:54 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-260389 [...] up with a great analogy about empathy and sympathy as we had been discussing the issue of being a Florence Nightingale, a woman who focuses her energy on fixing/healing/helping people who have been almost specifically [...] [...] up with a great analogy about empathy and sympathy as we had been discussing the issue of being a Florence Nightingale, a woman who focuses her energy on fixing/healing/helping people who have been almost specifically [...]

]]> By: Why People Don’t See Their Qualities & Contributions to Relationships Accurately – Part One | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-256569 Why People Don’t See Their Qualities & Contributions to Relationships Accurately – Part One | Baggage Reclaim Tue, 06 Apr 2010 22:35:50 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-256569 [...] is why I warn of the perils of also suffering with I Can Change Him syndrome and playing Florence Nightingale to the Walking Wounded of this world in my ebook Mr Unavailable [...] [...] is why I warn of the perils of also suffering with I Can Change Him syndrome and playing Florence Nightingale to the Walking Wounded of this world in my ebook Mr Unavailable [...]

]]> By: Is He Different With Her? Why Did He Choose Her Instead of Me?: When You’re Not ‘The One’ (or they move on to a fresh ‘victim’) | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-255972 Is He Different With Her? Why Did He Choose Her Instead of Me?: When You’re Not ‘The One’ (or they move on to a fresh ‘victim’) | Baggage Reclaim Thu, 01 Apr 2010 21:42:17 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-255972 [...] she loves him and stem any rejection she feels by pursuing him for validation and attention. She tries to get him to change. She thinks it’s just a matter of time. The relationship’s mostly fleeting highs and a [...] [...] she loves him and stem any rejection she feels by pursuing him for validation and attention. She tries to get him to change. She thinks it’s just a matter of time. The relationship’s mostly fleeting highs and a [...]

]]> By: Knowing When To Work At Your Relationship – P2: Questions to Ask Yourself & Key Signs | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-255811 Knowing When To Work At Your Relationship – P2: Questions to Ask Yourself & Key Signs | Baggage Reclaim Wed, 31 Mar 2010 14:58:16 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-255811 [...] this red flag and they are fully aware and ready to resolve the issue, you are actually engaging in fixing/healing/helping which is a sign of a very unhealthy [...] [...] this red flag and they are fully aware and ready to resolve the issue, you are actually engaging in fixing/healing/helping which is a sign of a very unhealthy [...]

]]> By: Holding onto the illusion: Are you emotionally lazy? | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-238125 Holding onto the illusion: Are you emotionally lazy? | Baggage Reclaim Thu, 13 Aug 2009 17:26:03 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-238125 [...] You could be trying to forge a relationship with the type of man you profess to want but instead you try to fit a square peg in a round hole and suffer with Betting on Potential and I Can Change Him syndrome. [...] [...] You could be trying to forge a relationship with the type of man you profess to want but instead you try to fit a square peg in a round hole and suffer with Betting on Potential and I Can Change Him syndrome. [...]

]]> By: Getting back with your ex when the reason for the breakup hasn’t changed | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-229523 Getting back with your ex when the reason for the breakup hasn’t changed | Baggage Reclaim Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:04:31 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-229523 [...] Believe and insist that they can change - I Can Change Him syndrome [...] [...] Believe and insist that they can change – I Can Change Him syndrome [...]

]]> By: Dropping the illusion of words to be action focused in your relationships | Baggage Reclaim http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-226609 Dropping the illusion of words to be action focused in your relationships | Baggage Reclaim Mon, 11 May 2009 14:09:36 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-226609 [...] That, and there are also many women who hear but don’t listen anyway, and suffer with I Can Change Him syndrome… [...] [...] That, and there are also many women who hear but don’t listen anyway, and suffer with I Can Change Him syndrome… [...]

]]> By: JeNNifEr » Blog Archive » REturn on Investment in relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-193033 JeNNifEr » Blog Archive » REturn on Investment in relationships Sat, 11 Oct 2008 14:11:43 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-193033 [...] and be careful of investing in a Fixer Upper as it is likely that it will be another woman who will bear the fruit of your [...] [...] and be careful of investing in a Fixer Upper as it is likely that it will be another woman who will bear the fruit of your [...]

]]> By: Return On Investment in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-82606 Return On Investment in Relationships Wed, 14 Nov 2007 13:14:06 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-82606 [...] and be careful of investing in a Fixer Upper as it is likely that it will be another woman who will bear the fruit of your [...] [...] and be careful of investing in a Fixer Upper as it is likely that it will be another woman who will bear the fruit of your [...]

]]> By: DatingSOS.com http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/comment-page-1/#comment-57204 DatingSOS.com Fri, 17 Aug 2007 01:55:36 +0000 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-him-syndromefixer-uppers/#comment-57204 Great post! I've seen many women "raise" men their entire lives, going through the pain, only to see another woman reap the rewards. Why don't we all try and fall in love with someone we already like? Not someone we may life after we tear him down and rebuild him like an engine! ;-) Great post! I’ve seen many women “raise” men their entire lives, going through the pain, only to see another woman reap the rewards.

Why don’t we all try and fall in love with someone we already like? Not someone we may life after we tear him down and rebuild him like an engine! ;-)

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