Intro to Sex
September 8, 2005 by Vixen
For every woman out there, once you have been seeing a guy for a while, you know that you are ready to take the plunge and knock boots with him. However, for some, there is a certain nervousness and anticipation combined with self-consciousness. It’s this self-consciousness that limits you in the bedchamber and doesn’t allow your inner freak to be unveiled. Self-consciousness can ruin every single sexual encounter you have, leaving you with the thought that sex is over-rated or that you are not good in bed.
This is not true. Every woman is good in bed, you just have to know how to let go of the restrictions and boundaries holding you back. Society and our upbringing has managed to keep certain convictions embedded in our minds, convictions that hinder instead of help you in your quest for intimacy.
First of all, body perceptions. You may think that you are ugly; you might think that your breasts are too small/big, and have stretch marks and cellulite on every bit of exposed skin. However, when you enter the boudoir, you have to leave all these thoughts behind. Trust me, the guy doesn’t care if you’re an A cup or B, he’s just glad to have a pair of tits to touch and feel. He doesn’t care if your body isn’t Hollywood perfect, he’s just ecstatic that you are disrobing in front of him.
The difference between women and men is that we women are overly critical of ourselves. I have met many a man with varied penis sizes, which have no skills in the bedchamber whatsoever, who still walk and talk like they are God’s gift to women. It’s not about what you have or what you are packing, but how you move, how you stimulate, how you sensually anticipate and provide for his every sexual desire.
There is a sexy woman in every woman and you just have to let go of what you think about your body and focus on what feels good.
Another thing is your perception on your level of skill. There is no way that you can ruin a sexual encounter as long as you participate. Lying there like a ton of bricks is a sure way to get the man turned off easily. Enthusiasm and participation make up for inhibitions and lack of skill.
Remember, the ball is in YOUR court. A guy might want to sleep with you, but that doesn’t mean that he’s worthy enough to lick your shoes. You get to pick and choose whom you allow to enter your temple, and do so diligently and safely. Don’t feel pressured to have sex because he took you out on a few dates. You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to.
Too often, I’ve heard guys tell me that they won’t or can’t wear any condoms because they are ‘allergic’ or ‘it doesn’t feel the same’. Sorry homeboy, that is not my problem! Wrap it up or whack it off. Plain and simple. With all the creepy crawlies, STDs and HIV out there, you need to be safe. Remember, with every person you sleep with…you are sleeping with every other person they have slept with as well.
And last but not least, be creative. Be spontaneous and enjoy yourself. It’s all about you doll, so make sure that you get as much pleasure from each encounter that you can. Remember the law of reciprocity and have a ball. Happy screwing!
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